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Martha, Martha…

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I am sharing excerpts from my e-workbook, Spring Cleaning for the Heart and Home available in the P31 Bookstore.

“Martha, Martha…”

“Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word.

“But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.

“And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:38-42

Some of us thrive on serving. I happen to be one of those people. I truly enjoy serving. I like to stay busy. Often, if I have no current project, I will find one. I have work-a-holic tendencies. Yes, I know. That is not always a good thing. Hello, my name is Melissa and I am a Martha.

     I have to focus. I have to consciously make a decision to be like Mary. I have to ask daily (and every night) for God to give me the strength and the self-discipline to wake up early  in the morning to have my devotions. I do enjoy that time. And when I am consistent about it, I really enjoy that time. But it is so easy to fall back into bad habits that I know I have to stay focused.

     Now, this is not to say that there is anything wrong with being a Martha. We are to cultivate a servant’s heart. As followers of Christ, our mission is to teach and serve those around us, that our lives might reflect His.

The Proverbs 31 Woman  “stretches out her hand to the needy.” (Proverbs 31:20).  Not to mention the fact that she looks well to the ways of her household, does the shopping, cooks, cleans, sews, plants a garden…. all with willing hands she does this work. (Proverbs 31:10-31).

    So, what was Christ telling Martha? Was He dismissing her frustration? Didn’t He care that she was slaving away in the kitchen to provide HIM with something to eat? He knew that she was the type of girl who would put serving (ministry) above her relationship with him.

It really boiled down to what was in her heart. It is very easy for us to give, give, give… and not get around to drinking from the well. Especially if you volunteer at church, PTA, have friends and family who rely on you… or even if you are just a wife and mom… it is so easy to let those forms of ministry and service become the goal rather than your relationship with Christ. He wants you to take time each day to sit at His feet and drink in His Word.

Do you see yourself in Martha?

Do you enjoy serving others (church, friends, neighbors, extended family, etc.) more than you enjoy serving in your own home?


Today’s Spring Clean Challenge:

  • Dust lampshades.
  • Dust tabletops and other surfaces with lemon oil or your favorite polish.

Instagram Photo Challenge: Your favorite spot in your home. Use hashtag #p31springclean.

I’ll be focusing on one area – however seemingly small – in my home each day for the next two weeks. With the rotating weekly chore list in my This is My Life Planner, I’m easily able to remember to maintain chores – which keeps my house neater and cleaner on a daily basis.



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Home is Where the Heart Is

Home is Where the Heart is... {Spring Clean Challenge #1} @ AVirtuousWoman.org

I am sharing excerpts from my e-workbook, Spring Cleaning for the Heart and Home available in the P31 Bookstore.

Home is Where the Heart Is

Jesus said, “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Luke 12:34.

I have given this a lot of thought over the last few months. What is my heart focused on? I have realized once again how precious my family is; how sweet my home is to me; how much I treasure this gift of home God has given me.

There have been times when I have struggled with not feeling appreciated for the hours of work I put in each week at home and in ministry and for my large extended family. Do you resent the work you do at home and for your family? Where is your treasure?

“If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet.” John 13:14.

Jesus came to serve. If the King of Kings could kneel down wash their dirty feet, how much more should we be willing to do?

     Being a wife and mother or even a daughter or sister is often a thankless job. I can’t count the times I have had to do a thousand different tasks in a weeks period – at break neck speed – to only have people complain that something was left undone or not done perfectly.  It can be hard to take! We want to feel like what we are doing is noticed and appreciated.

     If our joy is found when someone says, “Thank you so much. I know you worked really hard today. You are such a great person/wife/mom!” we will be disappointed time and time again.

We need to seek our joy, not in the people whom we serve, but in the Lord we serve. Jesus is the joy of our salvation. If we depend on our husband or children or friends to make us feel worthy of love and appreciation, we will be disappointed at some point.

Serving others should be something that comes from the depth of our hearts. We should feel joy simply from the act of serving, not from the praise we receive.

Is home where your heart is? Do you long to be some where else? Do you need to refocus your priorities? I want you to really look deep into your heart. Be still and listen to the voice of God.

Seek Him out… and listen.


Today’s Spring Clean Challenge:

  • Wash the inside of your windows and mirrors.
  • Wash door jams and baseboards.

Instagram Photo Challenge: The view from your window. Use hashtag #p31springclean.

I’ll be focusing on one area – however seemingly small – in my home each day for the next two weeks. With the rotating weekly chore list in my This is My Life Planner, I’m easily able to remember to maintain chores – which keeps my house neater and cleaner on a daily basis.

What do you love about your home? What areas are troubling you?



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An Instant Homemaking Library

An Instant Homemaking Library

I don’t know about you, but I love learning how to be a better wife, mom, homemaker, and child of God. And for that reason I am so excited about the newest Ultimate Homemaking Bundle!

I can’t tell you {yet} exactly what is included in this bundle, but I did want to let you know it’s coming next week – Wednesday, April 23, 2014. I’m sure you will want to grab this bundle and it’s only being offered for 6 days. I purchased the last bundle these ladies offered and loved it!

But, here are a few of the amazing authors featured in this bundle:

I’m Offering an Extra Bonus

Here’s the deal, if you come back here, and click through my affiliate link not only will you help support my ministry {and believe me when I say I can’t thank you enough} I’ll send you a copy of This is My Life 52 Week Planner for free!

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The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle

Okay, but I know, you’re dying to know what’s in this Ultimate Homemaking Bundle and while I can’t tell you which titles are included in the bundle just yet… I can tell you that there are some amazing bloggers offering their best stuff!

When you purchase the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle for only $29.95 you will receive:

  • 78 eBooks
  • 2 eCourses
  • 2 audio files
  • 2 printable packs
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The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is a complete library of great eBooks on homemaking—a truly valuable knowledge base that you’ll use for many years to come.

Not only that, but this exact bundle will never be offered again! Bought separately, they’d cost a total of $698 (not including $200+ in bonuses!).  But you can have all of them for just $29.95, or $39.95 for bonus Kindle editions!

 The Details

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