“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her.” Proverbs 31:11
With Valentine’s Day approaching in just a few days… I thought it would be fun to focus on different aspects of the marriage relationship or rather, how you and I can be better wives! Proverbs 31 tells us that the heart of the virtuous woman’s husband could safely trust in her. Does your husband trust you or does his hear lie in fear of what is coming?
Do you manipulate your husband?
I was listening to Focus on the Family on the radio this morning. The guest speaker mentioned something I wanted to share. She talked about how, often, women will manipulate their husbands to get their way. There are hundreds of ways to manipulate your husband.
- You could pout and give the silent treatment.
- You could refuse to be physically intimate.
- You could work behind the scenes to get your way.
- You could make your husband feel inferior or inept at making decisions.
- You could get your kids to ask for something you really want.
Have you ever done any of these things… or maybe manipulated your husband in other ways? When wives manipulate their husbands into getting their way, it can cause hurt and resentment on his part. He may no longer trust you. He may feel that no matter what decisions he makes you are never happy. He may feel betrayed and angry. He may feel like he cannot trust you with his feeling, his thoughts, his dreams.
If you find yourself wanting your way no matter the cost, pray about! Ask God to give you a submissive heart and to help you trust your husband as the head of your household. Instead of manipulating the situation, ask God to give your husband wisdom to make the right choices. Your marriage will be stronger for it.