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How We Escape

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How We Escape... looking for peace in all the wrong places. @ AVirtuousWoman.org #ATimeToClean #declutter

We’re coming to the end of the second week… how have things gone for you this week? I’ve had a really busy week! You may have noticed the site has a new design {again}. I know it’s only been a few weeks since the last makeover, but even though I liked it… it just wasn’t giving the site the feel I wanted. So, let me know how you like the new look! Be sure to check out the home page as it has the biggest change in appearance – with a few more tweaks to come.

A Time to Clean: Day 10

You can read the rest of the posts in this series here. 

When the past hurts, and we feel unlovable, we hold on to things that we really need to let go. Clutter piles up in our closets and drawers, in our hearts and in our homes. And we feel the need to escape our reality.


Discouragement can creep in slowly over time as life in general doesn’t go as expected. It can also crowd our soul quickly when grief strikes or changes we didn’t ask for happens.

Life goes on whether or not we are discouraged and sometimes that means that we push aside our discouragement, never really dealing with the underlying issues in our heart. As we become more discouraged and more discontent we feel more and more overwhelmed until we feel like things will never be okay – or we resign ourselves to having a mediocre instead of the oft dreamed of glorious life we had envisioned.

Expectations can ruin your life. Our preconceived notion about how things should be is so different than our reality that we feel dissatisfied.

For me, I had this idea in my mind of what my life should look like. Despite the fact that I had a rough start, when I remarried I had high expectations of what my new life would be like. I wanted a perfect life. I wanted a perfect marriage, perfect kids, and a perfect home.

Do you see what’s wrong with this picture? We’re not in heaven yet! This life will never be perfect. My husband will never be perfect. My kids will make mistakes. My house is old and needs work. We will face sickness, death, loss, grief, financial worries, frustrations, and more.

Jesus said, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

You will have trouble.

Peace that lasts will never be found in the tangible things of this world. Peace that lasts will never be found in fallible people. True peace can only be found in Jesus Christ who has overcome this world!

How We Escape

Unfortunately, we humans often look for peace in all the wrong places. Instead of going to the Source, the wellspring of life, we find escape in things like:

  • novels
  • television programs
  • shopping
  • food
  • material possessions
  • a career
  • social media

There are so many ways we can escape from reality – even for just a little while. Instead of staying on top of the clutter in our hearts and homes, our weary souls tell us we need to take a break and fill the pain with something – anything to soothe the pain. Clutter and discouaragement go hand in hand – like a vicious cycle the discouragement leads to more discouragement as clutter accumulates and piles up, whether it be mental clutter, or emotional clutter, or soul clutter, or physical clutter. We don’t want to deal with it.

What things in your life are masking the pain of your reality? 

Real change comes when we choose to accept reality. Just like an alcoholic much admit he has a problem, we too must admit there’s a problem and work to change our hearts and change our habits. Alcoholics often drink to numb the pain inside. And perfectly nice, sweet Christian women often hide their pain in novels or social media. In order to have real healing we must face what’s really going on in our hearts and then deal with the reality of our cluttered homes.

Today’s Goal

  • Think about how you escape from reality. How would your time be better served? You can print my “This Week” To Do List which perfectly coordinates with “This is My Life” Planners.
  • Pray about making hard decisions – about what things you should keep, preserve, or let go.
  • Pick up a journal and write down your thoughts about what He has shown you orprint my free prayer journal.
  • Choose an area in your home you want to tackle. I’ll be working in my living and dining rooms today.
  • Fill at least one bag or box full of stuff to give away. You can donate to our Appalachian Community Center if you’d like.
  • Take a picture of your bag. Share it on Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook, or Instagram – use hashtag #atimetoclean {optional}
  • Leave a comment below about what you chose to get rid of and anything else God has laid on your heart.
  • Do your best to wake up early tomorrow and spend time in prayer. Use your prayer journal. I’ll be waking up around 6:00 am.

 My Progress

I have gotten a nice little bit of stuff done this week, but nothing is completed yet. I cleaned off one of our bookcases in the family room {where we homeschool} and managed to fill up several boxes worth of books to sell, trade, or giveaway. In fact, 2 1/2 of the 4 shelves are now free for me to store school books that we are actually using! Which will be my project today.

A Time to Clean: 30 Day Challenge #ATimeToClean #clutter #declutter

I’ll also be working this afternoon on our homeschool closet. Remember, I told you I had a problem with books!

A Time to Clean: 30 Day Challenge #ATimeToClean #clutter #declutter

 How do you escape your own reality? What are you working on today?

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  1. This challenge has meant a lot to me. I had been really struggling to shake discontentment and self pity. It almost destroyed me! Taking ths challenge has truly allowed God to set me free.
  2. Thank you for this challenge. Enjoying your post and the reminders to get a bag or a box out of the house each day! My family thanks you also because this is very needed in our house.
  3. This challenge is exactly what my family needs right now, I just found your site this morning, so I am behind, but I plan to follow along and finish by the New Year. I have a 8 month-old now, so this year I have lost ground to clutter. Now that schedules are getting easier, and my son can entertain himself quite a bit more, now the the perfect time to get our home (and my sanity) all cleaned up in time to start the year fresh. Thank you!
    1. Hi Alison! It's never too late. I'm glad you're joining in and I know God will be working right along with you. :) Having a little one around is a challenge, but so much fun and this time passes so quickly! God bless you!

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