The Heart of Her Husband: Day 10

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“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her.” Proverbs 31:11

With Valentine’s Day approaching in just a few days… I thought it would be fun to focus on different aspects of the marriage relationship or rather, how you and I can be better wives! Proverbs 31 tells us that the heart of the virtuous woman’s husband could safely trust in her. Does your husband trust you or does his hear lie in fear of what is coming?

You can read the rest of this series here.

Do you expect your husband to be perfect?

You probably thought your husband was pretty near perfect when you met, maybe even in the first days and weeks of your marriage. And then real life happened and he disappointed you. Now, you can’t understand why your husband doesn’t know what you want when you want it, he isn’t nearly as thoughtful as he should be, he makes a mess like a child and doesn’t clean up, he doesn’t watch the kids the way you would, he doesn’t see the need for romance, etc.

Now, when he disappoints you, you feel resentment toward him, maybe even indifferent and you let him know just how unhappy you are with his thoughtless behavior. You want him to provide you with every want, every need, every desire and be your perfect companion.

Unfortunately, you married a mortal man, a sinful human being.

Only Jesus Christ can fill all the desires of your heart. If you are looking to your husband to complete you in every way possible, you will always be disappointed. He is not perfect, nor will he ever be until you are together in heaven.

Christ came to this earth and lived here among a sinful race. He died an excruciating death for you… and for your husband. Neither one of you deserve the grace of God, but it is a gift you will receive if you only reach out and take it.

Sin is such a wicked, putrefying thing in the sight of God. And yet, He loved us enough to show us grace even though we will never deserve it as long as we are living in this sinful world. Grace is not something we deserve it is a gift.

Perhaps today you can stop seeing all of the shortcomings in your husband and start seeing him the way God sees him – as a precious child of the King. Someone who deserves love at all costs. Someone who deserves forgiveness – not because he is so great, but because God was loving enough to forgive you. Love him, because in the end, what else really matters?

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  1. I did think he would be more of a perfect husband during those early years. Yes, he was the nearest thing too, recalls first time I felt the heat of a disagreement. I was shocked at selfish immoral conduct. However when we are young we do and say things we never thought about retracting. I heard someone say once may your words be gracious and few for tomorrow you may eat them. I have eaten my share of words the following day. I do try to not speak before I think about any thing. We may do or say that is not agreeable. I do love God and Jesus Christ, and I allow quiet time with God in my home. Through prayer and my words may I be a example. I know God is real I know he is not limited to, helping only those who are rich and famous. I recently had a disagreement about god being able to forgive drunkenness and drugs. I told that person a lot of things yet I was not angry. Alcohol and drugs are not now nor have they ever been a part of my life. Yet, I still want to stand up and bash people who say that God can't really save those souls and forgive the people who fall into those traps. if that is what a marriage or person goes through and then finds God I am sure even the police department would not be one to say nope that person is not saved , or yes, that God would reject them in heaven. I guess my boldness scared the two females. I did not feel they were attacking me but the cross Jesus bore that said he could save the unsaveable and or love the unlovable. I hope that they were listening and that there answer were that I will hear they gave their life to God this week. I know I am posting late. I have been setting up a face book page and wow did I ever connect to many relatives. Just as in regular public we do not know who sees are witness. I pray that God makes us better in our walk. We are starting to reminiscing about our early years of being in ministries together. Well, it appears you can find your old church's and even the headquarters online and find your pastors to keep up with them. This is inspiring to any pastor especially if you went to them for marital counseling. Who knows where we will end up. Maybe working in the ministries together.