The Heart of Her Husband: Day 11

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“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her.” Proverbs 31:11

With Valentine’s Day approaching in just a few days… I thought it would be fun to focus on different aspects of the marriage relationship or rather, how you and I can be better wives! Proverbs 31 tells us that the heart of the virtuous woman’s husband could safely trust in her. Does your husband trust you or does his hear lie in fear of what is coming?

You can read the rest of this series here.

Men are basically easy to please. Feed them good food, keep the house clean, and give them plenty of…

Okay, so husband’s aren’t usually too hard to keep happy if they are getting the big three at home from their wife. Good food, a clean house, and a wife who doesn’t withhold sex. Today, I want to focus a little bit on the sex issue because I figure you might want to have a few days to think about how you are going to drive him wild on Sunday night.

First, let’s talk about the bedroom. It should be neat, tidy, and fresh smelling. In other words, your bedroom should not be full of clutter, laundry, dust, etc. and the bed linens should smell good. So, if your bedroom is looking a little less than it’s best, go ahead and give it a good once over today and tomorrow.

If you visit Real Relationships, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot have a newsletter you can sign up for and when you sign up you get a little e-booklet called 7 Secrets. #2 deals with sex. Their secret for a happy married life full of great sex for women is this: seduce your husband wildly at least once a week. He’ll be a happy man and far less likely to be tempted by women he meets on a daily basis when he is away from home.

Go the extra mile this weekend. Light some candles. Run him a bath (maybe even join him?), wear something sexy. Be his fantasy this weekend…. and then try to make it a weekly occurrence.

“Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1 Corinthians 7:5

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  1. I really wanted to tell you how blessed I am reading this series. I'll share a little story with you. Our home needs windows and doors very badly. We had a company come and give us an estimate. I didn't think it was so bad for each window and 2 doors. After the man left my husband said he wasn't interested in spending that much. We have enough money saved to pay for them in full. I threw a small fit. I know that new doors and windows will save us a lot of money and raise the resell value of our home. I have been pouting around here lately because of it. I have now turned this situation over to God and I'll respect my husband's decision about this. Right or wrong I need to support my husband in his decisions.
  2. Melissa, I must agree with you here. I would not consider my husband to be a typical man, but when it comes to the basics you speak of they are definitely present in all men!! My husband is no exception to them and if I did nothing but concentrate on these three basic aspects I know he would be pleased. As to the third... I want to encourage these married women in this area. A little attention and care can go a long way. Don't think that just because you're not a tiny supermodel that you can't make the effort! Don't feel embarrassed! Your husband loves you! All of you! I know we are very self-conscious but making yourself a little vulnerable here will not only excite your husband but also show him you're willing to trust him with your vulnerabilities. Make the effort and if you don't know where to start, ask him! If he feels he can trust you, he'll tell you what he desires. Be willing to listen and remember that he is just as vulnerable as you are, so be considerate to his responses. : )
  3. Melissa - Thank you for your many encourages to be better wives! I didn't get married until I was 31 and am thankful everyday for my wonderful husband!!!! Just before we got married I made a commitment to my fiance (now my husband) that I would never withhold physical intimacy from him as a punishment. I think it helped to have it out in the open. Now if I am even thinking about it either I am reminded by the Lord or my husband reminds me (in a gentle, kind way - no demands). I am so glad that I made that commitment to the Lord and to my husband. We are both happier because of it. And, it forces me to deal with my concerns/unhappiness in a healthier more appropriate way. Thank you!
  4. Melissa I like the advise in the scriptures in Corrinthians. I am my husbands personal stimulater. Smile and he loves me I know. I Love Him! We have spent the majority of our life in bed together no doubt. Diabetis over the past years have taken their toll on both of us and keep you from having normal intimacy, and that one you can ask any couple dealing with that. No matter what our situation I always find a way to keep him physically active and make him think of living ,being very physically active reduces blood sugar and weight which both increase personal intimacy.
  5. i want to be God's woman in every relationship in my life-especially to my husband. I am going through a painful period in my life right now. I read a text that exposed an unhealthy relationship with a person of the same sex. I approached my husband about it and he continues to deny it. I know that I am not crazy and he told me that he was just joking with the person. I become livid when he continues to lie and play with my heart. He even tried to put his hand on the Bible to prove his point. I hardly check his phone. I believe that this has been going on in that the other person is effeminate and has no connection and association with me like his other friends. When I ask my husband to explain the relationship, basically he can't. This has caused problems in our marriage and bedroom. I really need prayer because I want to do the riight thing. Right now he is afraid to touch me. Should I love on him right now despite his lies? I feel if I do, that he will think that I am stupid and accept lies.