3 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Husband {Day 21}

3 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Husband {31 Days of Calm Series} - 3 things you can do TODAY! @ AVirtuousWoman.org

31 Days of Calm in My Chaos

Nothing can cause stress like an unhappy marriage. So if you are looking for some peace and calm in your life, it’s important to focus on your marriage.

So often we forget why we got married in the first place. As the months and years pass by, as bills need to be paid and children come along, we forget the ideas and dreams we once had. Staying connected to your husband isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth the effort!

3 Things You Can Do Today to Connect

1. Smile at your husband. And I don’t just mean a half-hearted, “I’ll smile if I have to” smile. I mean a genuine from the depth of your heart smile. Look him in the eyes and let him see the love your still have for him. He wants to know you like him. He wants to know he’s appreciated. A smile communicates those feelings without the need for words. {Of course, sweet words are good too!}

2. Do something “just because.” You know what your husband likes. You know what makes him happy. So why choose one thing today to make him feel special?

  • Maybe he loves having his feet massaged after a long day at work.
  • Maybe he has a favorite meal that’s just a little bit complicated to make and you don’t make it often – put it on the menu!
  • Maybe he loves baseball and you don’t. Make some fun snacks and watch the game with him.
  • Maybe he’d be really surprised if you showed up at work for a lunch date with him.

You get the idea. Let him know he matters to you.

3. Make love and make it count. For moms, especially tired moms, sex isn’t always a big priority. But for most husbands, sex always matters. They don’t feel emotionally connected unless you are sexually intimate on a frequent/ regular basis. And whether you want to admit it or not – sex is important. So make time to really make love to your husband. Show him he still makes your heart race.

Today’s Goal: A good marriage takes time and effort. What can you do today to make your marriage a little sweeter?

How do you show your husband he’s still the one?



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Last-Minute Valentine’s Day Ideas

Last Minute Ideas for Valentine's Day for everyone on your list. @ AVirtuousWoman.org #valentinesday

Okay, so if you’re like me… life is crazy on a daily basis. And, well, you just haven’t had a chance to give much thought to what you’ll be doing for Valentine’s Day.

Lucky for me, this year I’m using my “This is My Life Planner” which includes a handy, dandy Valentine’s Day planner located a few weeks before Valentine’s Day to help me remember to actually plan something.

The Holiday Bundle for This is My Life Planner Basic @ AVirtuousWoman.org #planners #planneraddicts #moms #proverbs31

P.S. It’s not to late to purchase your very own This is My Life Planner! It’s an instant download and loaded with lots and lots of options! And the freebies don’t hurt either!

Anyway, back to Valentine’s Day. So, I’m always looking for inexpensive fun ways I can decorate plus little fun gifts I can pull together for my friends and family.

Inexpensive = free. Okay, well, at least  the printables are free. Here’s a fun round up of some of my favorite Valentine’s Day printables just in the nick of time for you to print and roll!

 Free Last Minute Printables for Valentine’s Day

For Younger Kids:

Mustache and Lip Valentines from iheartnaptime.net

{via iHeartNaptime.net}

For Older Kids and Teens:

You're All That & a Bag of Chips Valentine @ My3Monsters.com

{via My 3 Monsters}

For Boys:

Printable Valentine's for Boys @ SweetCsDesigns.com

{via SweetCsDesigns.com}

For Girls:

Butterfly Valentines @ Skip to My Lou

{via Skip to My Lou}

For the Lunch Box:

Fruit Valentines @ CakeWhiz.com

{via CakeWhiz.com}

Lunch Box Love Notes @ G*Rated

{via G*Rated}

For Grownups:

Pucker Up Valentine @ Shaken Together

{via ShakenTogetherLife.com}

For the Husband:

One Hot Tamale Valentine @ Mommy by Day Crafter by Night

{via Mommy by Day Crafter by Night}

So, there you go. A free printable Valentine for everyone in your life. You’re welcome.

What are you doing for Valentine’s Day this year?



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31 Days of Calm: Unconditional Love {Day 18}

31 Days of Calm Series: Unconditional Love {Day 18} "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. " 1 Corinthians 13:7 @ AVirtuousWoman.org

31 Days of Calm in My Chaos

Expectations.

Expectations can ruin your life. Your expectations. Other people’s expectations.

Do you ever feel like other people expect too much of you? Or maybe you expect too much from yourself? So much so that you’re leaning toward perfectionism?

About a year ago, I began setting boundaries. Now, it’s not like I never had boundaries, but often, I felt like other people’s expectations of me were unfair. I often felt like people had no conception of what I really had to do each day – how much was on my plate. And foolishly, I allowed family and friends to take advantage of my “people pleasing tendencies.”

I learned the hard what that saying no to other people’s expectations is sometimes necessary and right. I also learned that it’s okay for me to not be perfect.

On the flip side of that is my expectations of other people. Are my expectations ruining my life or my family member’s lives? Do I expect my husband or my children to be perfect – or darn near perfect?

Of course, standards are important. As moms it’s our job to train our children to be good, loving people who possess a good work ethic and a sense of right and wrong.

But it’s not our job to ensure our children never make a mistake or face adversity. It’s not our job to see to it that our children are as perfect as children can be.

It’s our job to love them unconditionally while showing them by example what it means to be imperfect followers of Christ.

The same goes with our husbands. It’s not my job to make sure my husband is always the perfect spiritual leader, never says words he shouldn’t say, or never makes a mistake.

Especially in Christian marriages, our expectations of our spouse are often higher because we feel like our Christian spouse should know better. So when mistakes are made, we feel self-righteous and indignant.

Remember this verse? “Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” Matthew 7:5

We are not called to judge our husbands. We are called to love them unconditionally.

You see, Christ loves us unconditionally. He is always faithful to forgive. He doesn’t hold our past mistakes against us. He lifts us up and offers encouragement when we are discouraged. He comforts us when we are sad. He lived His life as an example that we might follow in His footsteps.

Christ gave His life for us while we were yet sinners. His love knows no bounds! If His love for us is so great, should we not be willing to love others with the same unconditional love?

The Proverbs 31 Woman

The Proverbs 31 Woman stretches out her hand to the needy. She doesn’t judge them. She doesn’t talk down to them or make them feel bad for needing help.

Our families need us. They need us to love them, support them, encourage and comfort them. They need us to love them unconditionally.

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:7

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