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Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman is not about being “perfect.” It’s about living life with purpose, diligence, forgiveness, and repentance. Let’s take a look at the 10 qualities of the Proverbs 31 woman below.

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It’s Mother’s Day weekend and the pastor is speaking about the virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman and while you wish you could be her, you feel like there’s no way you could ever live up to the righteous standards laid out in the last chapter Proverbs.

You sit there and think about your hectic morning, rushing about, trying to get the kids ready for church on time, and no one can find their shoes much less get into the car without complaining, whining, and bickering. How in the world could you ever become a Proverbs 31 Woman?

Oh, sweet friend, I’ve been there! Being a wife and mama is hard work and sometimes – maybe often times – you feel overwhelmed and frustrated and wish you could just get a break.

I have good news for you!

Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman isn’t as hard as you think. In fact, Proverbs 31 is not a checklist or a to do list. Instead, it’s a beautiful representation of what it means to be a virtuous woman.

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Let me show you how being a virtuous woman today is possible – and my guess is you are already well on your way to living out God’s purpose for your life. And that’s what Proverbs 31 is really about – living with purpose.

The Proverbs 31 Woman Today

Often women believe that Proverbs 31 doesn’t really apply to our modern lives. But I believe that God’s Word stands the test of time, don’t you? God’s Word is still relevant today! These 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman demonstrate how, as Christian women today, we can all be Proverbs 31 Women.

The 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman

What does Proverbs 31 mean for the 21st Century woman?

The passage of Proverbs 31 was written a long time ago. So when you read about how she “holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers” you may feel like the words do not apply to your life in the 21st century. I want to show you how we can break down the verses and how you can live out each verse in your own life. 

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1. Faith. She loves Jesus with all of her heart. A Virtuous Woman serves God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31, Matthew 22: 37, John 14: 15, Psalm 119: 15)

2. Marriage. She is a faithful bride. A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. But first and foremost she is the bride of Christ. You do not need an earthly husband to be a virtuous woman! (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis 2: 18)

3.  Mothering. She is a loving mother and her children call her blessed. A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She nurtures her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)

4. Health. She takes care of her physical, mental, and spiritual health. A Virtuous Woman cares for her body. She prepares healthy food for her family. (Proverbs 31: 14 – 15, Proverbs 31: 17, 1 Corinthians 6: 19, Genesis 1: 29, Daniel 1, Leviticus 11)

5. Service. She serves others with love and kindness. A Virtuous Woman serves her husband, her family, her friends, and her neighbors with a gentle and loving spirit. She is charitable. (Proverbs 31: 12, Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20, 1 Corinthians 13: 13)

6. Stewardship. She is a wise steward of the gifts God has given her. A Virtuous Woman spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs. (Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 14: 22, Numbers 18: 26)

7.  Industry. She is industrious and works with willing hands. A Virtuous Woman works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31: 31, Philippians 2: 14)

8. Homemaking. She is a good manager of her home. A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)

9. Time. She spends her time on that which is good. A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 16: 9, Philippians 4:8 )

10. Beauty. She is creative and embraces beauty and godliness. A Virtuous Woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones. (Proverbs 31: 10, Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25, Isaiah 61: 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 – 6)

Are you beginning to see how you can apply these verses to your life? I hope so! Seeing God’s Word come alive is so exciting to me!

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What does it mean to be a Proverbs 31 Woman?

The passage of Proverbs 31 in the Bible was written by King Solomon, based on the advice his mother gave him. In reference, the passage begins:

The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him. Proverbs 31:1

Many theologians believe King Lemuel is a poetic name give to King Solomon. King Lemuel’s mother wanted him to choose a wife wisely and she offered him a list of characteristics to look for in a Godly wife. The passage offers us a glimpse into what being a virtuous woman or being a Proverbs 31 woman might look like.

Who was the Proverbs 31 Woman?

The Proverbs 31 woman was not an actual woman. Let’s be clear. King Lemuel’s mother was describing the kind of woman she hoped her son would find.

Because of this, many people discount the idea that it’s even possible to be a Proverbs 31 woman or they feel discouraged by the seemingly impossible standard set for women in this passage.

I believe that all of God’s Word is useful for instruction, correction, and reproof. I believe that God’s Word is still relevant today. I do not believe that God allowed the passage of Proverbs 31 in the Bible by chance. And I do believe that it’s possible to be a virtuous woman today.

Is it possible to live up to the idealistic portrayal of the virtuous woman?

Yes. But maybe not the way you think. Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman does not mean being a perfect, idealistic woman who can do it all and do it all at once. Rather, becoming a Proverbs 31 woman means that you live out God’s will for your life daily and live each day with purpose.

The Passage of Proverbs 31 | KJV version

Let’s take a look at the passage of Proverbs 31 and see what the Bible really says about her before we move on.

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The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.

What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?

Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.

It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:

Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.

Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.

Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.

Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.

Open thy mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

A Woman of Noble Character

The Proverbs 31 woman is described as a virtuous woman or as a wife of noble character. She is also described as a woman of valor.

I don’t know about you, but the word valor conjures up fantastic images in my mind of a strong woman who knows what she needs to do and she sets about doing it. She has a purpose!

valor definition: great courage in the face of danger, especially in battle

As women of valor, as Proverbs 31 women, we are fighting a spiritual battle. Remember, it is a woman’s faith that makes her virtuous – not a list of tasks completed or to do lists checked off. It’s her pliable heart in response to God’s prodding.

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 1 Peter 5:8

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:12

A Woman of Valor

As virtuous women, as women of valor, we are called to put on the armor of God and take every thought captive in obedience to Christ! Isn’t that awe inspiring? Do you see how God sees you?

“Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.” Ephesians 6:11

“For though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.” 2 Corinthians 10:3-5

The virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 has great courage. She’s woman on a mission. She is ready, willing, and able to face each task and trial. She knows God is on her side.

And if God is on her side, who can be against her?

“And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified. What, then, shall we say in response to these things?

If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all–how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?

Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died–more than that, who was raised to life–is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us.

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?

As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:30-39

The Proverbs 31 Woman is clothed with strength and dignity.Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25. “

Proverbs 31:17 says she, “..girds her loins and arms with strength.” As a woman of valor, she is spiritually strong. She wears the belt of truth: “Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth.” Ephesians 6:14 KJV.

The New Living Translations says it this way: “Stand your ground, putting on the belt of truth and the body armor of God’s righteousness.” 

She is ready to go to battle for those she loves and she wears the armor of God. Ephesians 6:10-18 says,

Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints.” 

Who is the Proverbs 31 Woman?

We’re not talking about the perfect Pinterest mom. {Who is she anyway???} Or the perfect wife. {Never gonna happen.} Or the perfect Christian woman. {She doesn’t exist.} We’re talking about a woman who knows who she belongs to and every good work comes from living a faithful life guided by Scripture.

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Proverbs 31:30 says, “Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.” She isn’t worthy of praise because of what she does but because of how she does them. 

Remember, all have fallen short of the glory of God. You need not strive for perfection. In fact, striving for perfection this side of heaven will leave you feel empty time and time again. God made each of us unique.

“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10

You can be a Proverbs 31 woman – you simply need to believe that Jesus is the Son of God, that He came and died for you that you may have eternal life, and ask Him to forgive your sins. Then, love Him with all of your heart, mind, and soul!

“…Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” Matthew 22:37

The Proverbs 31 Woman and Grace

We are also talking about a woman who understands grace. Grace for herself and grace for others. Without Christ, we are nothing. We can’t be good on our own. But with Christ all things are possible. One of my personal favorite Bible verses is Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” 

I love this verse because it means I don’t have to do it alone. I have Christ on my side. It’s His blood that covers my life with grace – not because I deserve it, but because He loved me enough to die for me! And when I stand before God on the judgement day, I don’t have to stand there naked. Instead, the robe of righteous will cover my sins.

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9

We are told that the Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t fear the snow because her family is covered in scarlet. Jesus’ blood covers us and we have nothing to fear.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.” Proverbs 31:21

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” Isaiah 43:1

And part of living out a life of Grace is also extending that grace to others. 

“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.” Colossians 4:6

“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Colossians 3:13

“See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” Hebrews 12:15

You Can be a Proverbs 31 Woman

Just as faith is what makes the Proverbs 31 a virtuous woman, it is your faith that redeems you. We can all be proverbs 31 women. You can be a proverbs 31 woman. You don’t have to feel like a failure. You don’t have to feel like you will never measure up. In fact, God says you are already His! All you have to do is believe.

Being a Proverbs 31 Woman isn’t about being perfect or trying to live up to a list of impossible standards. It’s about living with purpose. And your purpose, ultimately, is to serve a risen Savior.

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How to Apply Proverbs 31 to Your Life Today

1. Commit your life to Christ. Allow Him to come into your heart and lead, guide and direct your steps. You want to give up your own selfish desires and ambitions and die to self.

“The steps of a good [wo]man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.” Psalm 37:23

“I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.” Galatians 2:20

“Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” Proverbs 16:3

“They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.” Acts 2:42

2. Pray and study God’s Word. When you pray and study and allow your every though to be taken captive, you are strengthening your faith and girding your loins, ready for battle. You can also study the 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman and determine how God would have you implement them in your own life.

“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12

“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Psalm 119:105

“Blessed is the one who reads aloud the words of this prophecy, and blessed are those who hear it and take to heart what is written in it, because the time is near.” Revelation 1:3

“You will pray to him, and he will hear you, and you will fulfill your vows.” Job 22:27

“Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise.” James 5:13

“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Matthew 26:41

3. Keep His commandments. We are called to obey Him. As Christians, we will desire to live an obedient life. That does not mean will we never make mistakes. But it does we will make it a priority in our life to grow and strive to improve. And when we do make mistakes we will ask for forgiveness.

“Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.” 2 Timothy 2:15

“The one who keeps His commandments abides in Him, and He in him We know by this that He abides in us, by the Spirit whom He has given us.” 1 John 3:24

“If you love me, keep my commandments.” John 14:15

“”I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.” John 15:5

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23

4. Study the virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman and ask God to show you how you can implement them in your life.

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.” 2 Peter 1:5-7

5. Accept God’s grace in your life and let His love shine through you. As women of virtue, we are called to share the Good News with others and be a light in a dark world so that other’s might experience His grace and love as well.

Understand that grace is a gift and there is nothing you can do to earn salvation. Jesus came and died for you so that you might have everlasting life with Him for eternity. It’s your choice to accept the gift of grace.

“Therefore no one will be declared righteous in God’s sight by the works of the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of our sin.But now apart from the law the righteousness of God has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:20-24

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9

“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:14-16

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  1. My Fiance and I have been having many relationship issues since we made the decision to spend the rest of our lives together. He is 53 and I am 50. This morning in my quiet time with the lord, his spirit spoke gently but firmly to me that I should not be looking at his character flaws but that I needed to look within myself......I needed to become a Proverbs 31 woman. So here I am......and I'm scared to death to be real honest because I am just not sure how to go about all of the things. Could some of my sisters in Christ come alonside me and give me the gentle direction I need? I would like to do a self-study on this....any recommendations?
    1. First of all, you referred to your fiancée...I pray you aren't just living together... I have learned the hard way. God looks at our hearts individually and as a married couple, individually and as a team. I am in the 19th year of a VERY difficult marriage, being unequally yoked. Read Proverbs 31. This is what God expects of us as wives. He will work in things in your heart to line up with the Word of God. He also looks at our spouse's heart. What has always been my stumbling block is that although I have worked very diligently to have a clean heart and follow God's instructions about respecting my husband, I felt God was not moving fast enough for me and tried to fix my husband's selfish ways, hot temper, disrespect of mr, etc., etc. God is not on our time table and I find that I have actually hindered his growth. Only recently has he shown any desire to change. God has told me many times to take my hands off my husband so HE can work on him. This is an extremely difficult cross to bear. I pray you ask God for specific guidance.
      1. Amen to that. All in Gods timing sweetie, not ours. I have to remind myself of that on a daily basis. All in Gods timing...
      2. Melissa, I really appreciate hearing those words. I finished praying and God led me to this website (*thank you God). I'm in a very similar situation and really needed that encouragement. I was ready to walk away, no run, but God is telling me to stand in place and let Him go to work. I was becoming weak and was ready to give up. Because of disobedience, I went unequally yoked. I'm learning the hard way..... God warned us.
      3. Being a virtuous wife is not easy and only by keeping our minds stayed on Christs love can any of us ever over come our weak sinful nature. As for Gods timing He will not force anyone to love Him, it can only come by yielding our hearts and will to HIS. So by your husband seeing Gods love in you and by your being a living example he can be drawn to Christ and still this can only only by much prayer by you and others interceding for him before the throne of God and much patience on your part and those in your prayer group can this be made possible. (which again Christ gives if we ask For He has promised no good thing will I refuse you which He has proven to all through His dying on our behalf. So He has shown that in order to save a life we must sacrifice our wills so Gods will can be done in us just as it is heaven.
    2. Am so blessed that I wish I could physically be in your class for this teaching. As women we go through do much that this kind of material really bless our hearts. Thank you.
  2. I want to be a proverbs 31woman to walk in Gods ways dear sisters pliz pray with me i need Gods touch in my life i need to hold my child in my arms i need His touch n grace in my life
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  8. Thank you to all sisters. iam glad that most sisters want to become a virtuous woman , i also want to be a virtuous woman but i made a lot of mistakes in life, and iam facing a big challange pls help. I WANT TO BE A PROVERB 31 WOMAN. I need prayers and advice frm you. I have two kids from different fathers and now pregnant for a third one from a man who has two woman as wifes but they living in his country. iam with him in South Africa and his ready to marry me but i think i made a mistake by loving him and commiting adultry with him. please advice what should i do now. I need prayers and a word of advice that will lead me to become a virtuous woman . please respond to my email address. thank you
  9. I was on google looking for inspirational words and came across this sight. I do plan to apply it to my life and pray that god will give me wisdom, knowlege and understanding. I'm married with 2 kids and praying that god will have his way in my life and my husband life and let us become connected to his word and live faithfully by it everyday.
  10. As my name may show I am a man. I am currently separated from my wife of 23 years, our children are hurting as am I, and it comes about because I was not living the life I should have been with my heart and soul devoted to christ. I did not cheat on her nor abuse her but at the same time I did not please her as she deserved. I am back before our lord now seeking his guidance and ever hopeful that she will see the change in me and open her heart. She befell a path similiar to one I read above in that she entered into the working world and once there she became angry that she was not treated the same, not paid the same but decided she was better off on her own than in a marriage to someone that did not provide her with the love she thought she deserved. Strange in looking back now that she believed this, we never argued, fought, she was the perfect wife in my eyes, always nurturing the children, ever attentive to my needs, but inside she longed for more. we have lost much in this world for many reasons and I believe a woman has a place above that which is spelled out here. A true man must also honor his wife and walk beside her and support her in attaining that which she needs. Just my thoughts.. A man ever hopeful for his wifes love....
  11. I am in my 40s and married with 3 kids. My very close friend have a fellowship that is based on virtiuos women. She has touched a lot of life in Africa and is just starting in USA. We grew up together and lost contact after marriage. (lack of cell phones at the time). We recently reconnected and as we are cashing up lost times, she asked if I knew that I am a virtious woman? I have been living almost all the above mentioned qualities of a virtious woman without attention to proverb 31. I said almost because, after reconnecting with her, I realize am short of two. That is focusing on my husband's 85% good qualities over his 15% inperfection without complain. (still working on it)The other one money management has been taking care of by life experience. Being a virtious woman starts with prayers and is very peaceful. Be in prayers especially for your husband and children.
  12. Roger, I am glad you are being hopeful, and goodluck. Your post has given me hope as well that one day my husband will see me walk the walk, and hopefully one day the Lord enlightens him, the way he has enlighten you to see your faults. We must pray for ourselves to continue in the path of our Lord. Today, after talking to my husband, and another disagreement, I had kind of an epiphany... Although I am in deep heartache after our encounter Reading Proverbs 31 and having faith I will become that woman brought me peace, because I am doing it for myself and if God wants him and I to be one again then he will come home. Ms, I will be praying for you tonight. You need to give yourself to Christ wholehearted, pray for peace and wisdom. He is giving you this 3rd child for a reason, stay close to him, trust in him. For I know the plans I have for you! Declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11. Put this all over the house in stickies. I have stickies everywhere in my home, car, work, books, bible, anywhere I bump into everyday to keep me focused. Good luck to all.
    1. John, Yes we do still exist, it took me a long time to get to where I am with God, and I have been single now 13 yrs, but I know now I am secure in my walk and would love to meet a great christian guy who is on fire for God. Its hard to find someone who believes the way you do. But I know what I want and wont settle for anything less for my walk.
  13. Thanks Melissa for sharing this. Breaking it down into points 1 -10 makes it easier to understand,apply and to do a self appraisal.God bless you Melissa. Glory be to God for all women out there who are enjoying their marriage and living the virtuous woman life. For those having some hard time in their marriage, please dont be discouraged, have faith for with God all things are possible. Cheers
  14. Hi I enjoy reading your page. It encourage me. To be a proverbs thirty one woman god richly bless you.
  15. Thank you for listing the 10 attributes of a virtuous woman. I am beginning a new group (crafts, teaching, support) for ladies within our church and community. I am planning to use Proverbs 31 as our theme. I truly believe that a woman can be a virtuous woman without being a doormat. God has blessed me with a wonderful husband that I've had the privilege of sharing almost 30 years with along with four children who are now grown and beginning families of their own. Although many men see Proverbs 31 as a way to "control" their wife's behavior and attitude, they fail to see that the Bible also gives specific mandates to men also--particularly in how to behave towards their wife! Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter 3:7 are very specific in saying a husband should have the same care for the comfort of his wife which he has for himself. A husband should see his wife as one with himself. As a man protects his own body from cold, hunger, sickness, and suffering so he should regard and treat his wife. A man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. I have always loved the following poem: Woman was created from the rib of man She was not made from his head to top him Nor from his feet, to be trampled on. She was made from his side, to be equal to him From under his arm to be protected by him From near his heart to be loved by him. ~author unknown~ That being said, the Bible also tells men in Proverbs 21:9 "It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman." God has blessed me with a wonderful husband that I've had the privilege of sharing 29 years with. Although our marriage has had ups and downs, we've survived the rough times and rejoiced in the good times together with the guidance of our Lord Jesus. As a young wife of 17 (especially during the rough times), I often referred to Proverbs 31 as an encouraging guideline of what I should be doing to bring about joy in my family. I continue to use Proverbs 31 as my inspiration. Let us all as virtuous women always strive to make our home and life a place of joy and comfort for the man God has given us to share our life with.
  16. Thank you, I was reading Proverbs 31 and wanted to put the words into an invitation for a special woman in my life and your website help tremendously. God Bless You!
  17. After 32 years of marriage I can only say how thankful I am to God for giving me such a wonderful wife. I have often read Proverbs 31 and tried to put my wife in those scriptures. It wasn't until the storms came and the winds blew hard on our relationship that I realized how much of a virtuous woman I had in my home. For the men that may be reading this please understand that beauty is only skin deep but ugly is to the bone, when beauty is gone, ugly holds its own. Your wife may not be able to compete with your secretary or the the nice young lady that thinks you're all that and then some but your wife is the true beauty in all of this.
  18. Charlotte, your entry was magnificent. Question for anyone. So what happens if you are separated? Do I start and continue doing these things? He feels he needs to work on himself, whereas I feel I can work on myself and us because part of us is me. Had we know of Christian beliefs, Such as proverbs 31 and all else in scripture about marriage maybe I would have known better, and I say me because I did the opposite of all 10 virtues, in turn degrading, disrespecting, embarrassing him... Can't even start. He now has no trust in me, without understanding I have Christ in my life today and forever.
    1. Carmen, I know this must be a difficult time for you. All I can say is that if your husband refuses to work on your marriage together, then all you can do is work on yourself, pray for your husband, and give your burdens, worries, and fears to God. He knows exactly what you and your husband need right now. God bless you!
  19. Melissa, thank you! I know I must leave him alone. His truck route is my neighborhood, he comes home all the time. Most of his clothes is here. If i cook he eats. We are cordial and he is the main breadwinner and still pays all the bills, takes care of our financial affairs, the house...therefore, my question really is, do I continue to treat him virtuously?
    1. Carmen, it sounds like he's still invested in the life you have together... have you tried writing him a heart felt letter or even getting down on your knees and asking for forgiveness? Read 1 Peter 3. Your words have the power to convert your husband. If you know he'll be home at a certain time why not trying to seduce him? It might open the door to better communication. I don't know. You may have tried that already! Whatever you do, pray about it first. And don't give up hope. If he's a good man with a good heart, he's worth the effort!
  20. Thanks again Melissa, I am finally feeling Christ is truly there... I know it will be okay! I just love him unconditionally, but I know our Lord will give me strength to make it. I read 1 Peter 3, it's perfect that is how I feel...but that's not how I felt a couple of weeks ago. Once again thank you for your support!
  21. I am a pastor from Kenya and work with a team many pastors and tomorrow Am having pastors' wives meting. Thank you for this wonderful web. Please allow me to use this material to them. God bless.
  22. I am happy that today there is some one who is passionate about the gospel truth about how a woman per say is supposed to be; to reflect what the original plan of God was for her. thank you for such publishing....i pray many women get to read such literature. Being a virtuous woman is not instant but rather a lifestyle we do adopt with time. I encourage us ladies to start living out these say principles. Day by Day we will get there. Lets make our husbands proud.... We can make it; lets get started. Shalom
  23. I wish I had this information before getting married. I wish I put Christ first in my life as a young woman. I wouldn't have made the mistakes I made or suffered from the abuse of men. God would have protected me. All the answers on how to live are in the bible. Now I am middle aged and alone. I am too afraid to trust men. I am just praying that my two boys will walk the walk and find virtuous women and be kind to them.
  24. Melissa, this is a very inspiring post. I have been recently trying to become more like this and stumbling upon this inspired me to start blogging about my journey. Thank you for sharing and I hope that you would stop by and check it out. Thank you again and may God Bless you and your readers.
  25. I was looking up the word Virtuous and stumbled on your site; then after reading your readers comments it provoked me to comment, I've suffered a broken marriage after 20 years and our children of 4 has been tramatized a great deal over a selfish divorce on my exwifes part-what is sad is we both are Christians and believe in God n His son Jesus Christ...not strangley enough a God centered relationship suffers the if not worse the pains of one thats not God conscience- The devil hates anything that LOVES God and BOTH party has to be aware of that "tribulation we will have" the intangibles are just as important: FORTITUDE,PERSEVERANCE,STEADFASTNESS;and last but not least FERVENT PRAYERS. If you are having a lifes failure its a prayer FAILURE says a great man, Kenneth Copland. I only believe that one day my ex will see our mistakes and forgive herself so we can move into a better compatible place where the spirit of God rsides, for our children sake. Amen Selah
  26. This page is so encouraging. I have been married almost 3 years now and I have been having major martial problems. However I am trust God to change my heart. I have stopped pointing fingers at my husband and have decided to search within myself and see where I went wrong. I'm trusting God to work this out for us.
  27. What you have created is beautiful. I strive to have all 10! My husband strayed from our marriage many times, and put himself first. He was very gullible to temptation. The media makes it so very easy for them. I believe we have to be the strong ones when it calls for it and be ready to hand over the yoke when they are ready. I remind myself daily, it is God's time, not my time. God has rewarded me with a husband who has renewed his faith and straps on his armor now daily, to resist temptation. He sees me now, as a treasure rather then looking past. So, yes! With God ALL things are possible, in His time. Just have and keep your FAITH. Let go and let God. I believe he led me to this wonderful site to remind me of my duties as well. To look forward and not back. To forgive frees me. I pray for my fellow sisters! Many thanks to you, Melissa, and what you have created.
  28. Melissa,as i search around to find scripture to read i came across your site,only the lord got me there,because i have no idea how i got there,but i'm glad i did. proverb is my favorite book to read.thank god for the (ten virtues woman of proverb 31).and also thank you for putting it out there. will share this site if the lord say the same.god bless you melissa,hoping that i don't get off this site and cannot find it again.
  29. Hello... I have been in a relationship for three years off and on. I was confused and kept dragging my last relationship into my future. Therefore, my fiance is tired now and told me this week that he does not want to be with me. But the Lord put christian people in my life and I realized that the companion I have has been great to me. I ask the Lord to please allow me to view every with virtuous women.
  30. Hello everyone, I'm in a whirlwind, life has divided my wife and I to the point I'm not sure we will make into 2013 together. My wife says she gave up life, says she doesn't know if she wants to be married or live life. I'm beyond heart broken, we haven't divorced, and we haven't filled for separation. I've prayed and fasted, and everything I can think of but she is like stone. She only responds to messages never steps first.... I'm lost if you all have advice or willing to pray for my wife and I greatly appreciate it. :(
  31. Hi Devon I've been married almost 4 years with two childern. Marriage is a convent that the devil fights to destroy and I can testify of this in my own marriage about stuff that my husband and I have gone through. But one thing is true that God is faithful and we must put ALL our trust in him that nor matter what storms come to battle against our marriages God is in control and HE will calm the storms. So NEVER give up TRUSTING in God for the rebuilding of your marriage cos the day u do give up it will be over. I will always keep u and ur wife in prayer, and by the Grace of God ALL is well NOW!!!!
  32. I came back from church today I felt a need for a change this season. And I thought of checking for the word 'being a virtuous woman, so I came across your website. The write-up really inspired me these will build up my life. I'm single and I believe God placed the desire to live right and work according to Gods principles I will make it a point of duty to be a virtuous woman, because being a virtuous woman is not instant but rather a way of life. May God grant us the grace not only to be virtuous but to make it to heaven. God bless you mallisa and meet you @ the point of your needs. For those going through different marriage and life challenges may God reveal him self and work things out to his own glory. God bless you
  33. Hi! I'm soo happy and excited to have found your blog!! It is exactly what I need and what my heart has been longing for! To live my life with purpose! I just subscribed and I received the free downloads! Thanks soo much for that! I really wanted to print out the pdf version of the virtuous woman, but it's asking me to sign up for an app? Am I supposed to sign in in order for me to be able to download the printable form!! I would love to frame it up!! I need this as an example of the kind of woman I want and need to be!! Please let me know what I need to do to get it! Thanks!!!
  34. As much as I would like to say this was a great article, I'd have to say that you've missed some very important information about the type of woman a Proverbs 31 woman is. Everything you stayed was focused on housework type lifestyle. Proverbs 31 describes a woman that considers fields and buy them, and works them. It doesn't mention whether or not the husband approval is needed. Regardless, she is business savvy. The chapter states she makes and sells merchandise, has maids to help her in the house and understands product profitability, finances. This is very much a business-minded woman with a household nurturing purpose and not a selfish one. I just gathered that your article made it seem like her capabilities and roles did not involve any decision making on the woman's part, which is not true.
    1. Hi Michelle, I'm a little confused as to why you feel this way. Everything I talked about has to do with a woman making wise decisions. I agree, shes's smart and capable and a blessing to her husband and family! :) In other areas of the site I do talk about her use of money. Since the Bible clearly states that the husband is the head of the wife, a wife should not make big decisions that will affect the family without consulting and discussing it with her husband. And vice versa. A husband should respect his wife enough to discuss big decisions with her. I'm a work-at-home mom. I earn a living by writing and I believe that women are amazing and have a tremendous influence and responsibility to their families. Home always comes first because home is where the family grows and is nurtured. But that doesn't mean the only work a women will do or should do is at home. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :)
  35. Thank you for this article! It was really inspiring!!! I look forward to reading and feeling more enlighten on your website! Keep up the wonderful work!
  36. I am a Christian woman who has been single for 13 yrs just working on my walk with Jesus. Now that I am where I know I needed to be with him I am praying that God sends a good Christian man into my life. I won't settle for just being with someone to keep from being lonely, I need a man on fire for God as I am, who wants to walk this walk with me. I have read Proverbs 31 over and over and I know that I am and now can be that virtuous woman and wife to the right man, If you all could just pray God will send someone who is on fire for him as I am into my life.
  37. I am so glad I stumbled across this website. I am trying to prepare for a special service this Sunday. Every year we celebrate Girl Scout Sunday with a small local troop of girls, and it happens to be this Suday. then I got an e-mail from my politically correct employer HR Department that this Sunday is also International Womens Day. so I though that's great I need to find something inspiring to read to these young women that celebrates them for who they are and what God wants them to be. Most of what I found was very liberal in content and really started to make me angry and then I found this website. I'm just simply going to read to them the 10 virtues and then present them with a copy of the picture above that says it's not about being perfect it's about living with a purpose! What do y'all think?
  38. Well Val, We all know The Bible is not politically correct in this day and age, but who cares? It's what God says and HE NEVER CHANGES!
  39. Wow! Thanks for explicating what a virtuous woman should be. Although I am a Christian, I need to be put into the Carpenter's Hands "Jesus Christ" because I am a "REAL FIXER UPPER" and there is plenty of room for improvement that He only can repair. Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman is my goal.
  40. Melissa I am teaching a small group of young ladies at my church during an Enrichment Seminar and was wondering if I could have your permission to copy and distribute your 10 Virtues as a hand out.It is a small class of less than 10 girls. Thank you in Advance.
      1. Hi Rebecca, I lead a ladies group in the UK and was preparing to share about a Virtues woman when I came across this website and love what I am reading. Please could I could have your permission to copy and distribute your 10 Virtues as a hand out too. Of course I will mention your lovely self and a Many thanks Renee.
      2. I am also teaching a small devotion group at my church. If I include your information as the source may I hand out copies? I've truly enjoyed the reading and guidance and know it will help me and others (if I can share it) go forth with a better and more meaningful focus.
  41. Melissa thank you so much for this site, I am so glad I came across your site at my time of need. Me and my husband are going through some very trying time. We are both being pulled in so many directions and I have found myself looking at the man and not the God in the man. Which has caused me to fall from my up holding my Godly duties and dishonoring my husband . I to homeschool our children and work from home for myself as well as for my husband. I believe this site will be very helpful to me and my family. Thank You
  42. Hi Melissa, I want to thank you for this site. I'm partnering with one of my Sister churches and we are having a Proverb 31 Women believing in GOD service. I'm wondering if I could have your permission to copy and distribute your 10 Virtues as a handout. I know the Women will be blessed as I was by this information. Thanks
    1. Hi Cynthia, you are welcome to share the 10 Virtues as long as you credit myself {Melissa Ringstaff} and - thanks so much! I hope your ladies are inspired!
      1. Thank You Melissa for This sight. May I please use your t'en points. Blessings.
  43. Hi Melissa, I really love the way you broke down the 10 virtues of a woman. I was wondering if I could use that for a workshop I will be leading in Kenya this August? If yes, I will make sure your name is listed as a source and the website is also there.
  44. Hello Melissa, I'm teaching on the Virtuous Woman and found your website I'd like to ask permission to print a few copies for our Women's Meeting on May 19th,2015.I will give credit to you it's worded beautifully the website has so much info.Thank you and God Bless..
  45. Hi Melissa,Thank you so much for allowing me to use the prints on your it's beautiful.Blessings Gwendolyn
  46. Hey Melissa! I love how you broke Proverbs 31 down to be more understandable. It’s a great guideline for woman in today’s world. I am currently working on building my blog My focus is to get Moms fired up for living for God. I want to encourage moms to realize they have a purpose far more than the blessings of motherhood. Before finding my passion for writing, I felt dead inside. I struggled with anger, depression, and I didn’t understand why I couldn’t just be happy with the two beautiful children in front of me. Proverbs 31 can be challenging to understand because it reflects perfection, but it also contains all the ingredients a woman needs to feel purposeful. I would personally like to ask for your permission to use this list, with a link back to your site, with all your credits of course. Thank you! Whitney
    1. Hi Whitney, I love that you love my list. The 10 Virtues are copyrighted by me. I'd love to have you link back to the page with the 10 virtues, but I'd rather not republish them. Thanks so much for asking!
  47. hi melissa, I’m preparing a teaching on the Virtuous Woman and found your website I’d like to ask permission to print a few copies for our Women’s Meeting on july26th,2015.I will give credit to you.Thank you and God Bless..
  48. Hi Melissa, I too am a busy mom, 4 kids 7 years and under. My struggle is respecting my husband in my heart. He isn't healthy, and I think a lot of it is a heart issue. I am left holding almost everything. The mothering and homemaker I can do, even handling the money. But, when I have to figure out how I can pay the bills because he didn't make it into work again (most of the time due to health), spread my mama bird wings because he is being a mean old grouch or ask for help only to get the negative reaction I thought I would get... well it leaves me weary. I try hard to the woman God wants me to be - but do I have to relate so well to Hosea? Just wondering if you had thoughts on how to be the Proverbs 31 woman when the husband isn't a Proverbs 31 man yet?
    1. This kind of behavior from your husband may be a type of emotional abuse used to manipulate you. It sounds like he may be taking out his frustrations on you in an unhealthy way. I’m not saying that’s the case, but it could be. You can read more about emotional abuse here: Let me know what you think and if you have any other questions! I hope and pray that you are able to find peace and joy in your home!
  49. Hi, I have a prayer group and would like to share this information to the group giving credit to you on the hand out and to your website. Would that be ok?
  50. I found this on pinterest and think it's a helpful tool. However, I find there's one thing missing. A Proverbs 31 woman must remember the poor. "She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy." Prov. 31:20 I would have loved to see this idea incorporated as well.
    1. Hi Vanessa, That verse/virtue is listed under #5 Service. :) And I talk about it here: Thanks for stopping by!
  51. I don't understand the concept where you mention that you should consult your husband every time you make a purchase. You see, I'm a very successful business woman, and if I consulted my husband every time I made business decision, he'd go nuts. It would bother him more than anything else. He does know how much money I make, but he doesn't want me to ask him how to run the business. He wants me to make my own business decisions, especially since I'm very successful at what I do. He also is a very successful businessman, and honestly, if he wants my opinion on how to operate his business, he asks me. And I do the same. But if I bothered him every time I made a business decision, it would frustrate him. He wouldn't even know how to do it. In fact, he continually encourages me to be an independent thinker and to keep on doing what I'm doing. He is so proud of me. In fact, he often tells all his clients about what I do and how successful I am. Why would I have to ask him how to run my business, especially when he knows nothing about how to run it? He's the one who encourages me to continue to do what I'm doing. I love that about him! He loves the fact that he married an intelligent, successful business woman. It's hard for me to imagine asking him how I should run it, especially when he doesn't know how to do it. A real Proverbs 31 woman should be intelligent enough to run her own business. After all, if she can't even run her own business, then how can she take care of her own household? We work together as a team, and quite successfully, too! We'll celebrate our 28th wedding anniversary shortly.
    1. I think you misunderstood what I was saying. You don't need to consult your husband every time you make a purchase. You obviously have your husband's approval already. So, unless your purchasing something out of the ordinary {perhaps something really expensive} that would come as a shock to him, I would say you don't need to ask him to purchase a pack of gum, the groceries, or other ordinary type purchases. I run my own business and I very rarely ask my husband his opinion because he doesn't know much about what I do or how I do it. And that's okay. Sometimes women will hide purchases from their husbands. Maybe they like to shop and their husbands want them to stay in budget, but they fail to do that. That's just one example. When your husband cannot trust you with the finances, it can cause a lot of friction in your marriage. It sounds like you and your husband have all of that worked out and that's great!
  53. awesome!! I'mglad have come across this. The mention of being virtuous, strong, and independent is important. Love the fact that pure Heavenly Father makes mention that women are capable of bringing homethe bacon & frying it in the panO:-) blessings Kee
  54. Hi Melissa, I am 15 and I am writing a bible study to lead for and to mentor our younger girls in our youth. I wanted to ask your permission to possibly use some of these characteristics in the bible study. (If so I will be sure to give you credit)
  55. Hi, Melissa. I am going to be teaching a ladies' seminar in West Africa and would like to hand out copies of the 10 virtues, translated into French, with credit given to you and your website. We're anticipating somewhere between 30 and 70 ladies. May I have permission to do this? Thank you and thanks for sharing the 10 Virtues. Rachel
    1. Hi Rachel, I'd be happy to have you share the 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman at your ladies seminar. Please be sure to give credit to Thanks so much for asking!
  56. This is a beautiful post Melissa! I'm hosting a ladies conference call in 2 weeks about the Proverbs 31 Woman. I entered the search term in Google and I saw your site and clicked on it. So glad I did! Great work you're doing and I'll be following your posts! Blessings...~Natasha
  57. While I appreciate the value of all of the qualities ascribed to the "woman of virtue" in Proverbs 31, and don't deny the benefits of her activities and attitudes, I think we can sometimes forget that she "lived" (if there was an actual woman that this passage was written about) in a time where everything was about works. Granted the most important feature of this passage was that "Grace may be deceitful, and beauty vain, but a woman who fears Jehovah, she shall be praised." (Proverbs 31:30) After all, what counts more than God's approval? I think, in the long run, it is better to be a Luke 10 woman (namely Mary) than a Proverbs 31 woman. Our ability to perform never weighs better in the balance than our love of growing closer to the Lord and hearing from His Word. In fact, we see a perfect example of that contrast when a busy Martha chastises Mary for leaving her to the work while Mary listens to Christ teaching. "But answering Jesus said to her, Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, But there is need of only one; and Mary chose the good part, which shall not be taken from her." (Luke 10:41, 42). I am pretty sure this is applicable to us all. Putting Christ first, the other things will take care of themselves. Thank you for making a place here for people to come and talk about life in Christ. I hope you are able to be able to continue facilitating such a place for a long time. :)
    1. I appreciate your thoughts! The Proverbs 31 Woman was not about an actual woman. It was a mother's advice to the kind about the ideal woman. We cannot work our way to heaven. Anything we do for our families is an act of love, but not a requirement for our salvation. The reason I list Faith as the number one virtue is because it is the foundation on which everything else is built! :)
  58. Hi, Melissa... I have really enjoyed visiting your site. I enjoy your writing and really love the way you broke down Proverbs 31 to help us get to the meat in the passage! I've read it many times (and wondered how in the world I'd ever "make it" to that status) but never thought to break it down into simpler terms. I believe your heart and your God-given insights are a blessing to Christian women who are trying hard to swim against the current of modern culture to create godly marriages and homes. Thank you for what you do! :) Blessings and hugs~ Cricket <3
  59. Hi Melissa. I have written a blog post titled 'Women's size - Does it Matter?' and hopefully attached a link to your website, which I found having looked up 'Proverbs 31'. I look forward to receiving your newsletter. Thank you.
  60. hey Melissa! I am 15 and I recently got saved around four weeks ago. I thought I was save years ago but I got away from God and finally after God was trying and trying to get my attention (as He did the Israelites in Hosea), I finally answered. I have read through the Bible twice now and I came across proverbs 31 in my daily readings I looked up several different sites to find out some better way to fully comprehend the chapter. so I came across your website and honestly I love it so much. it was made so easy to understand and to fully grasp what it means to be a virtuous women in our sin corrupt society. I come away from this chapter now with a new understand of it than I did reading it in previous settings. you have truly inspired wonderful things and I was wondering I had your permission to print these out and hand them off to a couple friends. I'd give fully credit and what ever you want. I just think this I a site for every women to read. thanks for making this... I hope God uses this in many different ways to help as many people as possible as it has helped enlighten me in my walk with Christ. thanks so much again! ~your sister (now fully) in Christ, Olivia
    1. Olivia, I'm so proud of you and your heart for Christ. He is going to do great things through you. I'd be happy for you to share and do appreciate you crediting and/or Melissa Ringstaff as the source. Let me know how things go!
  61. Thank you so much Melissa I'm truly inspired and may God bless you as you continue with the good work...please may I print and distribute to a couple of friends and family..thank you so much..God bless you...
  62. Hi Melissa. I am looking for a short devotional that young Mothers of tweens can present to a church full of Tweens. We plan to have a lock-in with 10 year and older girls. We would have about an hour to present it and would appreciate some suggestions on building virtuous girls to grow into virtuous women.
  63. Hi Melissa i am from West Africa Ghana searching on more about who a virtuous woman really is low and behold i came across your blog and was really touched by your beautiful words. Its so inspiring and would like to share with the women's fellowship in my church which i believe will enlighten them and build their faith in the Lord. With humility may i print a few copies to issue out to them to make our studies an interesting one, and would also not forget to give you all the credit. Would be grateful to hear from you. God bless you for the good work done may He grant you more wisdom and insight into His word. Stay bless Melissa.
    1. Hi Irene, you are very welcome to share with the women at your church. I do appreciate you sharing the source: and Melissa Ringstaff. I hope the ladies are blessed. Thank you!
  64. Thanks Melissa for this write up. Am always happy when I see people who loves God and keep his teachings in this ungodly world of today. Although we have been taught thoroughly about this in our singles Sunday school, I was just searching for a way to summarize it. And the assignment that was given to us last Sunday was to write out the attributes of a virtuous woman and butress them. As I was browsing through and met this I was happy cause it will help me so much on the assignment by making it easier. God bless you. Keep blazing the fire. Thanks
  65. Thank you this is good for womens fellowship how to become a virtuous woman I enjoyed reading this.
  66. Hello Melissa Coming from a man's perspective, I really appreciate you taking the time and effort to break down the virtuous woman. i have three girls and I really wished could have gotten my hands on this sooner so that at least I could introduce this concept to all three of my daughters. Unfortunately, I'm divorced and my former wife is not saved but I'm constantly praying for her salvation. All my life I have been searching for the right woman for me but I didn't realized how clueless i was about knowing what the attributes are for the perfect woman for me. That is until I heard the scripture Proverbs 31:10-31 read at Nancy Regan's funeral which was televised. I decided to go back and read it for myself and then I looked it up online and found your posting of the 10 virtues of a virtuous woman. Thank you so much for breaking it down and relating it to current times. I now know what I'm looking for! ;-) I know she is out there somewhere and while I'm working on becoming a better christian man I will be still and allow God to reveal her to me. I'm so excited to meet her! God bless! ;-)
  67. Hello, I am conducting a women conference in Uganda at the end of the month and I wanted to know if I can distribute and copy 10 virtues 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman. I will give credit to a Thanks
  68. Hi Melissa, I'm doing a community group for women that will discuss Proverbs 31. I'd like your permission to use your list. I will definitely give you credit for writing it. It definitely breaks down the verses in an amazing way. Thank you
  69. I find it interesting that our western culture uses Proverbs 31 as a picture of biblical womanhood when 1) it was written to a man by his mother 2)if King Lemuel really is King Solomon then this proverb was written by Bathsheba and 3) the Jewish men sing this TO their wives, mothers, sisters, etc each week at the beginning of the Sabbath meal in order to praise them for all they do. Giving praise from the husband to his wife IS the point of the proverb. The book of Proverbs begins with a father telling his son not to chase after promiscuous women. The book ends with a mom giving advice to her son about how to be a man i.e. don't drink and carouse, stand up for those who can't do it for themselves, recognize how strong, capable, and full of integrity your wife is and praise her for it!! How many times has a wife stated that her husband comes home from work and says, "did you get anything done today?" The mom in Proverbs 31 is saying, "Son, your wife does way more than you will ever know while you are at work. Give her credit. Compliment her. Treasure the wife who runs all of the family's affairs while managing people, money, and future investments." Proverbs 31 was meant to lift women up in their roles here on earth, not be a checklist for her next performance evaluation. Look at all the women in the NT. Those women were not all in wife or mother roles yet they were addressed directly and encouraged through the letters of Paul to continue in their callings. He would have certainly admonished them if they were not fulfilling their biblical manual of a woman in Proverbs 31!
  70. I love your website and blog. I have been a stay at home mom for most of my married life. I have always felt it was a woman's responsibility to look over her household before going out to work. Being a mother is the most important job of all. I have started a blog recently and just published a post about what my mother has taught me. I think it's the most meaningful post I've ever written. If you get a chance, I would love for you to take a look at it. Thank you. Aimee at
    1. I too agree that being a mother is the most important job.. I was grateful to stay home with my youngest.. I feel God will honor your decision..
  71. I stumbled upon this when googling resources to study what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman. This list makes it easy to study and apply to daily life. I appreciate this and am excited to read more of your blog. Thank you and praise God for you!
  72. thank you For helping us.I would like to join a prayer group that will help me to be a proverbs 31 not yet married so I want to pray for my husband
    1. I do the same thing. For my future husband.....every morning and every night.. Dear Heavenly Father; I bring my future husband before you today asking you will bless him and shape him into the man he was designed to be.. Give him strength to lead our family, as Christ led the church with love and humility... Equip him with wisdom to make good decisions that are pleasing to you.... Show him his worth Lord, and show me ways I might Edify him.. Please protect his job, and grant him patience and understanding to love me the way that he should.... In the name of Jesus I pray. Amen Also I pray every piece of Gods spiritual armor on him daily.... I think God will honor my prayer in His timing if His will...
  73. Hi melissa,your write up about a virtues woman is very rich and powerful,may d lord strenthen u amen.Shld i pls use it to share wit order women?Tnx.
  74. Growing up as a young woman i was never told about what it means to be a woman of virtue, it's only now that when things aren't going well in a relationship I get to hear about this. It feels like its too late but I believe Gods timing is always best. Thank you so much. I am really knee to know more and this is a starting point. Thanks again.
  75. Hello! My name is Karessa (KM for short) and I have just started taking up Bible studying (online, self-study program). I am also an amateur blogger and in one of my posts, I've featured Proverbs 31:10-31, directly relating it to the role of a wife in Family Economics. I would like to ask you, I hope you don't mind: Is there any passages in the Bible where it says or implies that "A Virtuous Woman seeks her husband’s approval before making purchases"? Thank you very much for your kind help. As I've said, I'm quite new to both the Bible and blogging so it would be great to get an insight from someone with much more experience. Have a nice day!
    1. Hi KM, I've been meaning to reword this statement for a while but haven't gotten around to it. I don't mean she has to ask before she makes every purchase. I know several people have taken it that way. What I meant was that she shouldn't spend money behind his back. Sometimes wives hide their purchases from their husbands which is not a healthy for the marriage. The husband is the head of the household so whatever agreement the husband and wife have made regarding money is what she should follow.
  76. HI, Melissa. Your list of 10 virtues is concise and makes sense. I will be facilitating a women's Bible study this coming November and would like to ask for your permission if I could use your list. I will give all the credit to and to you. Thank you. Melanie
  77. I've read Proverbs 31 many, many times and know that this woman buys and sells for a profit. "She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, and makes her arms strong. She senses that her gain is good;..." "She makes linen garments and sells them and supplies belts to the tradesmen." Yet I don't see any references in your website about women getting into real estate, opening businesses to make a profit, as is shown in Proverbs 31. She is earning her own money and buying land, planting fields and selling her products for a profit. She's not just at home doing laundry, cooking, and running the kids around town. How about getting to the real endorsement of Proverbs 31 for women, to be all they can be as active contributors to the economy of their home, not passively by making wise purchase as the grocery store.
    1. Giselle, I appreciate your comment. I don't talk much about working outside the home because I have always been a stay at home mom. Also, this is my website and it is written from my perspective and life experience, I don't have a lot of experience with businesses other that working from home. I do have articles about how women can earn money at home and I have blog posts about blogging and earning an income. I am a business owner. I earn a full time income working only 2 or 3 days a week from home as a blogger and as a creator and designer. However,for you to suggest that a woman making wise purchases at the grocery store is somehow a passive way to contribute to the economy of their home is degrading to women who choose to stay at home. Whether a woman works outside the home and earns a paycheck each week or whether she stays at home and works just as hard to care and provide for her family, a Proverbs 31 Woman is actively working to the betterment of her home and family.
  78. Greetings, Melissa! I must say, this is an awesome site on the internet!! More men and women need to look up Proverbs 31, read and learn what it means. I have to admit, seeing this and checking out this website has been very refreshing. I am male and one of the things I see, from a man's perspective on the issue, is that in today's world, women are anything but a Proverbs 31 type of individual. I would have to say that 90% of females in my life have been anything but Proverbs 31 women. Now, that is not to say that all women are like that, but Proverbs 31 women are quite rare indeed! I am 38 years old and I can honestly say I can count on one hand the times I have run across a Proverbs 31 woman, and not all fingers are used. I feel one of the reasons many women of today have lost their way is due to an extreme lack of self worth and self confidence. Woman was made in the image of God and was put over the Earth to rule with Man. Women are the harbor in which life is brought into this world. Some of the most well known individuals that have ever lived on this Earth have been women. There are giants of the faith that are constantly referred back to in scripture. People such as Hannah, Deborah, Leah, Sarah, Rachel, Queen Esther, Miriam, Hagar, Anna, Elizabeth, Eve and of course above them all, is Mary, the mother of our Lord. These women judged men and nations, led armies into battle, fought against evil, were the first believers in the ressurection, were at the foot of the cross when the male Apostles deserted Jesus and were the first ones to attend the tomb on Sunday morning. Sorry for my long winded post!! I just feel that if women would encounter their womanhood in the prime examples that were set for all of us by the women in the Bible, both men and women would once again regain that affirmation that only Christ gives. Anyways, thank you for the good work in this ministry you have going! May more women be drawn to become a Proverbs 31 woman and may that endure for as long as possible! God Bless, Melissa!! Steve Timm
  79. Wow this is amazing! I love it! I do prison ministry and the women there would be so so blessed to hear this! Would you mind if I share!? Giving you the credit of course!
  80. Hi Melissa! I really really enjoyed your post. I am glad that I came across it. It reminded me of some advice that I gave to a friend years ago. She did not know what to with her life because her goal and dream was to get married. I told her learn, research, and study. Learn about finances, research the best ways to clean house or take stains out of clothes, and study relationships and figure out how they work. No one is perfect. I have been studying the Proverbs 31 woman for a while now. As a single person, I have come across people that say that this is for those women who are married... I tend to disagree. The verse that says that she will bring her husband good and no harm all the days of her life really hit me. All the days of her life does not start after she meets and marries her husband. It begins much sooner. I think that that way of thinking can apply to the whole passage. I broke down your list from a single woman's perspective: 1) Faith was one that could relate to both married and single women. 2) Marriage - to respect yourself as a person. 3) Mothering- some single people have children which this applies to. For those who don't I feel like this is to look out for those in need. For those who may not have anyone else. 4) Health was again something that could relate to both married and unmarried women 5) Service again a lot relates to both married and unmarried women. Take care of those around you. Family, friends, people that you meet. 6) Finance - as a single woman my belief is to take care of your money. Learn how to use it. Do not be afraid to invest if you want to. Find someone that you trust to help you out. 7) Industry - I really like what you said about this one. 8) Homemaking- if you live by yourself or with your family make it a comfortable place. Have people over for coffee and games. 9) Time- manage your time wisely. You may not be single for the rest of your life. You can do many things while you are single. You do not have to be married for your life to be amazing. 10) Beauty - Inner beauty cannot be taken away. Anyway these were my thoughts on your post. I really enjoyed it. Thanks!
  81. Hi Melissa, Glory be to God for the inspiration to write this inspiring article on principles of virtuous women in Proverbs 31 Please permit me to share copies of this article in a women programme coming up this week in Birmingham, UK. Thank you, God bless you,your family and your ministry in Jesus Name.Amen.
  82. Hi Melissa! I came upon your website because I had began to doubt my virtue as a wife, mother, evangelist and in other capacities as well. I am encouraged to continue and do what God is calling me to do in these areas. I certainly need the calm in the chaos because my husband has been ill for the past 18 months and often takes his frustration out on our family when he comes in from work. The house will be calm until he walks in, I often try to keep the peace but I am praying for his true salvation that God will fill him with the Holy Ghost. The emotional abuse is real and I know we all want what is best for our families and households. We have been married over 20 years and have been through some pretty tough times together. Thanks again and I will be sharing with my friends as well and using the household notebook.
      1. Thanks, for sharing your story because as a wife, we try to hold our families together,but get weak too.In our emotions. I now don’t feel alone. I just continue to pray and think positive.
    1. God bless your heart! hang in there , I am also the peacemaker in my home..continue to love and pray for your family god hears all the cries of your heart..he holds all your tears in the palm ofhis hand..loving your husband while hhe's being unlovable is the ggrace and heart of Jesus have a blessed dsy.and I prayed for healing for you'd husband and your Denise from Delaware
      1. I needed this reminder today. I know God is able we have been going to family therapy; my husband has now retired and I’m praying for God to restore peace and joy. When you don’t ask for much it gets tough thanks for praying and replying to me!
    2. Dear Vanessa, I happened upon this website and found your comments, which touched my heart, and I prayed for you and your family. There are many heartaches we endure in this fallen world dear sister, some of us more than others, and I am thankful you allowed us to know your struggles and enable us to pray for you as needed. God is faithful to answer our prayers. May He continue to give you patience and strength and wisdom as you live your days out in this fallen world, until the time we are all reunited with Him in Heaven, may His love sustain you. Continue to hold on to your family and be the peacemaker. You are not alone...
    3. Hi Vanessa, I just came across your post and while I realize it’s almost two years since you shared your story, I hope you know that I am sending light and love. It certainly sounds like you are going through a difficult time. While I appreciate that you are trying to be a peacemaker, Please know that there are resources out there to help women and men who find themselves in abusive relationships. There is always hope and always someone out there to listen. God Bless.
  83. I love this list! Thank you for the reminder of what a biblical women looks like! :) I'm thankful for the grace that God gives so so that we can strive to be this woman!
    1. Good luck Scott with finding your "Virtuous Woman." I am thankful my God loves an imperfect woman like me. As for me, good luck with numbers #6 and #9. LOL!! There was only "ONE" who was perfect, His name is and evermore shall be JESUS.... He is "Wonderful," "My Counselor," "My Savior," "My Healer," "The Great Physician, "My Redeemer," "My Rock," "My Strong Fortress," "Alpha and Omega," "From Everlasting to Everlasting," "The Great "I AM," "JEHOVAH," 'ADONAI," "The Beginning and the End," "My Master," "YHWH," "God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob..." etc..etc...etc... I suggest you look to God to meet your "Perfect" needs...He is your Creator... A woman is a creation...just like you... Unfortunately, if you hold these standards to any woman, your going to be disappointed. Our perfect happiness is found in God alone. Seek Him first...and all will be added to you in His perfect timing...
      1. Thanks Robyn, I really think I may have met her. I just don't know that she'll marry me. So I'm praying on it!
  84. Hi Melissa, I have been praying for help to bring organization to my cluttered apartment. I downsized and am in a 1 bedroom apartment. I found your website, I'm on day 4...Love, love, waking early to read the challenges and get started on the day's tasks. I can't wait until my new beautiful apartment, truly reflects the woman if God that am I am...God bless you Melissa!
    1. I think the idea is that all the qualities of a virtuous wife apply to all women. If you're single, imagine you're preparing yourself for marriage and motherhood. For instance, since a virtuous wife respects her husband, prepare yourself to be a woman who will respect her husband by respecting all the men in your life. And in preparation for motherhood, you can start developing qualities necessary to be a good mother, like patience and compassion. When you're single is the best time to prepare yourself to be the woman God wants you to become. But don't forget to relish your single freedoms, too, like getting to know yourself better and spending more time with your Heavenly Father.
    2. The proverb 31 woman is repected because she is independently profitable and graciously cares for others. If you are single, work on being responsible for yourself and profitable in your work so that you are in a position to help others, whether it be your family or society in general. Learn to manage yourself well...your finances, relationships, spirituality, and your health. It only gets harder to manage with a baby on the hip and a husband who is looking for dinner. #beenthere
  85. After stumbling through a rough couple of years in my life, I sat and cried and realized that I have no idea of who I am even supposed to be anymore. After reading these virtues over again I realize that I am none of these. Disheartening for sure and not sure how to possibly go up from here.
    1. Dear broken, I've been there too. I understand how you believe. I believe God wants you to be healed and restored and to remember who you are. You are His beloved and you are so precious Jesus died for you so you can live a full life. I pray for your healing. And maybe after getting your wings fixed, you can fly. Remember in the last verse of Proverbs 31, it says, "charm is deceptive and beauty if fleeting BUT a woman who honors the Lord should be praised." I think we can all start from that. Then grow in His grace to become the women He had in mind when He created us. Remember you are deeply loved and He wants the best for you. Hugs!
  86. So I'm going to be honest, I'm a guy and the first I heard of a Proverbs 31 woman was on a blog article that I was reading late last night. I didn't know what one was, but oh my goodness! I know where I am setting my bar now. This is what I've been looking for, for a long time I just didn't know it. Thank you for making it concise.
  87. I've been separated for 11yrs now and my husband never showed efforts to rebuild our family so I just move on with my life and carry the responsibility of parenthood to our only child alone. God is good that He gave me a stable job to support our daily needs but as I am to reflect to my present way of living I could say that I lose my virtue as a woman for I don't have a home to call my own I don't have a husband to serve to I feel broken for I've been dreaming of a complete family and I'm seeking it in the presence of other man who is have been to a broken home. What shall I do to regain my virtue as a woman. Im quite worried about my sons sake his growing up so fast that I can't tell if have I been nurturing him to be a man of God.
    1. Call upon Christ... He is sure to help you... From the debt of your heart cry to your maker... Every storm in your family will calm down in Jesus name... Amen
    2. You still very much have a home to make a haven - for your children. "Her children will rise up and call her blessed" There are many women out there this does not fit perfectly - widows, single moms. The Lord did not forget you. You simply dont have a husband, so take that out. Honor the Lord where you would honor a husband. Much of Proverbs 31 is not about a husband! It's about a hard-working woman who supports a HOME for her FAMILY and family can mean many things! Do not let being a single mom discourage you in any way. And the other poster I am not sure what he meant saying every storm in your family will calm -- sometimes the storm was caused by the man! So perhaps the storm has calmed but the clouds havent cleared yet so you cant see the sunshine! God has a plan for you and he expect this proverbs 31 action of you with or without a man. Serve your HOME AND FAMILY. Does not necessarily mean a man! it means the family you have -- children, whoever! Honor God as the leader of your home instead of a man! Also Proverbs 31 does describe a hard working woman who works OUTSIDE the home, a working mom! So go mama! Keep on going! Keep your head up and praise Lord for the blessing of the job that supports your littles. He is watching over you. It says the home of a Proverbs 31 woman will be clothed in scarlet -- and he is doing that for you! providing protection and fruit for your littles. Forget the man! He is not necessary here. It can be applied either way, mama!
  88. Thank you so much Melissa. I also live your 10 virtues column. I have a talk on it this coming mothers day in my local church. It has been a helpful resource, Ophelia (Ghana).
  89. Hi Melissa -- I think your statement that the Proverbs 31 wife is a home-maker is confusing to some ladies and want to make sure you clarify. If you are taking it into your hands to decipher the word of God you should be cautious. The proverbs 31 scripture describes a working woman who went OUT of her home to do bidding and to work in order to provide her home with income. It's very clear. When you tell ladies that this woman is a homemaker, a lot of women think this means a stay at home mom and wife. I am sorry but this is not what the scripture describes. See Scripture here: She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. (this describes a working mom​ - considering a field and buying it then coordinating planting a vineyard desribes a business transaction in which she is bringing income to her family​) 17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. 18 She sees that her trading is profitable, (​again -- ​hard worker - her work is profitable - she brings income to her home) and her lamp does not go out at night 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. (this, again, describes a working woman contributing financially to her home) I would suggest clarification! Unfortunately so many women feel pressured to quit work and stay home due to "biblical" proverbs 31 statements like this. It does not state that this woman was solely a home-maker. Making her home a haven, alas "home-making" is just ONE of the tasks she does!
    1. THANK YOU for so eloquently stating what I keep fumbling for on other blog posts. I scroll through Pinterest and see post after post about the Proverbs 31 woman being the "ideal" homemaker, that Proverbs 31 is mean to be the "greatest hits" of womanhood yet the posts often gloss over the fact she was a woman who worked for the glory of God both inside and outside the home. She likely had maids and servants to watch her children too while she went about her work in the town, taking her products to market and such. It grinds my gears when bloggers describe the P31 woman as "industrious" and then only cite how she gets up early and goes to bed late because she's so busy taking care of her children and being a housewife. Not true! P31 isn't meant to be a tool to limit what women can and should be. It's a celebration of all women and everything we do.
      1. Hi Melisa, I think another thing we have to remember is the context, for instance waking up early, I think it depend what time do you go to bed, some women this days work until midnight, the get home at 1 am, I think its ok if they wakes up at 10 in the morning. This is just an example, we need to be careful we don't take laterally interpretation, which is causing women to measure themselves with a woman of proverbs 31. The author influence too, we need to consider who wrote it and why did he. That way all women can be free knowing that whatever they are doing their family is appreciated.
    2. You can be a homemaker and still hold down a job. A homemaker is someone who makes her house a home. There's a big difference between a place to hang your hat and a home where everyone's on your side, where the people love each other and put each other first, where traditions and family culture bookend each personality, where the familiar routines and big dramas are all shared within comforting walls, where conversation, good food, order (if not neatness) and music all intertwine to create memories, expectations and standards for everyone in the family. I've been both a full-time mom and a working mom and I was a homemaker through all of it.
  90. Good morning, I have been doing some research on 5 women of the Bible in relation to Obedience, Faith, Trust, Courage and Loyalty for my churches Women Day program in September. I came upon the 10 virtues of a Proverb 31 woman, I think this is great. I am wondering if you have anything that I could provide to the woman of my congregation, like maybe book markers with the 10 virtues on it.
  91. one of the best write ups. i have ever seen especially on this area and i really love the fact that it was backed up with scriptures
    1. In my own case, I am an only child, my mum was sickba I took her along with me. Because of her condition I am always aggressive to my children and husband. The worst is that my mum has an insultive month. She hated my first daughter, and this is the girl that always baths her and keep her clean. So with all this things I am always annoyed with her. She always rendering biblical causes on my daughter. To the extent I cursed her back and decided to take her back to the village and get a good nanny to take care of her. I have been asking. God to give me patience to overlooke her.what do I do be cause the more she stays with me the more I derail from God because of her attitude.
      1. God sees your efforts and understands what you are going through. Sometimes the love for our loved ones can make us tolerate so much that we miss the point. I'm not sure patience is all you need to ask of God. You need more than that. Healing and restoration will crown it all. Healing of any kind of affliction in your home-your mum and then restoration of health, peace and love in the family. Your mum is not meant to be that way. She might have been afflicted, but thank God we have Jesus...John 10:10. You need to call on God for divine healing and restoration of peace and joy. Jeremiah 30:17, Psalm 51:12 will guide you. And finally, make out time for intense praise and worship to God your home, or anywhere comfortable; and also share the word of God with family, friends, and people, leading them to Christ Jesus... Matthew 6:33. You are blessed!
  92. I can say that your words of encouragement is surely a blessing, keep up the good work, Woman are seeking for strength and your words of wisdom surely put a flowers in our cap's may GOD bless and keep you and give you the will power to send his light to light up his woman of VIRTURE.
  93. The two most IMPORTANCE of a virtuous woman. 1. Fear God is the first step to wisdom. 2. She hands out to the needy, the poor and does not withhold her hand. -Rachael
  94. Thank you so much for tis write up on the Proverb 31 woman. It really bought out the virtuous lacking in most women's lives today. Am encouraged and it will form part of my talk to local Parish Women this Agugust meeting. Tina
  95. Hey Melissa. I'm a 20year old girl with a passion for Christ. I recently just came across your blog and it has been such an inspiration. I would like to pursue a blog as a ministry and I am trusting that the Lord will order my steps. Thanks for sharing with us. God bless! xoxo
  96. I have faith and you have opened my eyes and given me a renewed sense of hope. While reading this has definitely sparked an excitement for all of my tomorrows and I have a greater sense of where to begin again. If I begin each day striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman I will finally be able to straighten my crown and shine again as the storm had tarnished mine where I was so lost but my spirit has spoken through you and just because I never forgot I was a queen now here it will no longer hold me back my chains and strongholds have finally begun to be broken to bring healing as they have . I will stay steadfast in my faith walk for the devil cant hold me down. I am thankful for now realizing that this was the calm after the storm and now finally i can see because of this my way again because I came across this and you have helped me focus my sight regained because of you beinging me to where now I am surely seeing the (your) light. It brought me back to mine. God bless you. Thanks God and Jesus is the only way to the truth and in him the light that keeps me protected and safe. I have the strength to win this battle. I have been reaching , searching and using the wrong armor until now I am a rebel .I in the flesh may be alone in this fight but my victory will come because of the Almighty, my Redeemer. Hallelujah. It's the God in me. Evil doesn't win . I rebuke all the devil has thrown at me. He will no longer steal my joy. I am a Proverbs 31 woman after. Thanks you from the bottom of my soul for I had forgotten who I am. I know my name and am ready to put my home , life and world back in divine order.
  97. Hi Nicole, the devil’s first tactics with Jesus was to question His identity. So it is with us! I was having my devotion this morning - just finished Ecclesiastes but the Lord had my eyes fall on the end chapter of Proverbs again. I thought I’ve done that already but the Lord showed me again the real qualities of a virtuous woman - not a list of dos and donts - as part of a Bible study , but what she really is. I googled and found this website. The devil attacks who we are in Christ. I’ve been reminded that I can do this chapter because I AM this chapter in Christ! Such a revelation! So thrilled to know there are fellow Christian women struggling in their marriages but vow to keep going. I’ve been married for 26 years. 54 years old now and my husband has back sliden so we are unequally yoked. So hard to keep going when we don’t share the same passion. But the Holy Spirit says His Grace is enough for me, that I have to do MY part and leave my husband’s part to Him. At the end of the day we are accountable to Christ alone so I will keep going, although I cry a lot. God will establish me, keep me and lead me as I do His will to keep this marriage intact and not walk out. He’s training my heart to be faithful to the vow I took and that’s so important if we were to walk with Christ as He is our Husband in the New Covenant. I WILL not walk out on Christ, my eternal spouse, and I WILL not walk out of my husband, my earthly spouse, by the Grace of God. Keep it up ladies! God will lead us and keep us on His path, if we persevere.
  98. Hello Mellissa, I just wanted to say that I love your website and that it's an absolute blessing to my life. I'm a mom of 3 little ones. I stay at home while my husband goes to work; maintaining my home has a been an ongoing struggle. When we got married it was easy but after each child I just felt like I was sinking deeper and deeper. No-one knew I felt this way because I don't like to complain and I try to do it all and I was greatly failing. It wasn't until this year that I started truly to evaluate myself and be honest about needing help. The Lord has been speaking to me about being a virtuous woman, so I started to research the scripture and I found your website. I truly thank God for you because wether you know it or not you're changing lives. This is going to be a journey for me, one that I'm glad about. I have a vision of how I want my household to look, and emulating the virtuous woman is a great start! thank you for wisdom and for letting God use you on this platform, God bless!
  99. Id love the printable book on a proverbs 31 woman to understand my position as a woman who is a wife and mother and sister
    1. Hi, all! I hope you guys don't mind a man posting here! LOL! I want to commend the women that post on here. It is incredibly rare to find a true Proverbs 31 woman nowadays. Her price is definitely far above rubies! God bless all of you! I will continue to keep all of you in prayer!
  100. Along my journey to become more like the Proverbs 31 woman I realized something amazing. This passage is actually written from a mother to her son, the future King. The target audience is MEN. What I wouldn’t pay to see a Christian Men’s conference in which the theme text was Proverbs 31!
  101. I've recently gotten the urge to gain a better personal relationship with God. While doing so, I was surfing the internet about what exactly a Virtuous Woman is when I came across this website. Being a Virtuous Woman in the 21st century is very much so possible. It's just first knowing who God is then incorporating His word into your every day living. It won't always be easy but I know for sure that it will definitely be worth it in the end! I thank you for this!
  102. The virtues of a woman in proverbs is not about how a woman can be good. It is simply an allegorical look at the church, His bride and the lessons for believers yesterday, today and tomorrow. Our King (Our Husband, and I'm not a woman) deserves our total fixation on Him. He does not expect us to look at mankind as a substitute for him. This is being led by the flesh. Too many self confessing Christians are turning to mankind for leadership and direction expecting a change of culture in society. That's called futility and is the very definition of insanity. Turning to God through faith in what Christ did for us is repentance. This is my short answer to the virtuous woman in Proverbs. Thanks for ur blog. Love Todd

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