Praying through Proverbs 31 | a Proverbs 31 Prayer

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I’ve been writing about Proverbs 31 for over 20 years and I believe the Proverbs 31 woman is a beautiful representation of womanhood. Today I’m taking a look at how we can pray through the Proverbs 31 passage of Scripture and ask for God’s blessings. Remember that prayer and praying back God’s Word is powerful!

This Proverbs 31 Prayer may just change the way you look at the Proverbs 31 woman!

Women often feel great pressure to live up to a high standard. Who sets that standard? Society? Tradition? Other family members? Proverbs 31?

The Proverbs 31 Woman

Perhaps it’s a combination of expectations from a variety of sources. Do you feel it? Trying to live up to an impossible standard is an exercise in futility.

related: A Simple Guide to Proverbs 31: Explained for Modern Women

But let me tell you a secret. God doesn’t set impossible standards. The passage of Proverbs 31 – those verses that focus on the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman – are not there to make you feel bad about yourself or to point out your failures.

The passage of Proverbs 31 is a depiction of God’s faithful bride. It’s NOT a to do list. It’s an example that even modern women striving to live like the Proverbs woman can fulfill.

related: Read the King James Version of Proverbs 31 (KJV) here.

Praying Proverbs 31

Praying Proverbs 31 is something you can do to help you become the woman God has intended you to be. 

Prayer is so powerful! When we pray God’s words back to Him, you are asking God to fulfill His own promises! Every verse in the Bible is significant and has a purpose. 

There is power in God’s word, His promises, and His proclamations. Proverbs 31 is no different! 

Let’s take a look at how you might pray through Proverbs 31 and ask for God’s blessing on your life as a woman of God. I suspect that through praying Proverbs 31 your life will be impacted in a way you don’t expect. 

related: 21 Day Proverbs 31 Prayer Challenge 

How to Pray Proverbs 31

A Proverbs 31 Prayer for Modern Women

Dear Heavenly Father, 

Verse 10.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

You tell is in Your Word that a virtuous woman is hard to find. and that her worth is more precious than rubies. Lord, today I ask that you mold me into the woman you would have me to be. 

Verse 11.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack of gain or no need of spoil. Lord let me be a trustworthy wife to my husband and a faithful bride to You. (Revelation 19:7-9)

Verse 12.

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Help me to be a kind wife. I want to be a blessing to my husband. Please help me to offer grace and love every day to the man I married. (John 13:34)

And Lord, my desire is to serve You well. I want to do good and not harm. I long to hear you say to me in that day: “Well done my good and faithful servant.” (Matthew 25:23) 

Verse 13.

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

Lord, let my hands grasp that which is sacred and holy and good. Help me to let go of those things that aren’t good for me.

Make my hands willing to do the tasks before me. Help me to work with a cheerful heart and joy in my heart. Keep my lips from grumbling and complaining about the work I need to do. (Philippians 2:14)

Verse 14 & 15.

She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

Like the Proverbs woman, I want to provide well for my family. As I plan our meals and prepare food for my loved ones, help me be wise so they are nourished. Help me to also remember Your Word when You said, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.” (Matthew 4:4)

Let me not grow weary in caring for my family. Please give me energy to serve them well. I want to wake up ready to meet the day so that I might do your will.

Thank you, Lord, for the many blessings in my life that help me care for my family. We are so blessed!

Verse 16.

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

The Proverbs 31 woman was discerning in her purchases. She was careful in her decision making. Not only was she careful and smart, but she was also willing to follow through on those decisions with hard work. 

Nothing that’s worth having comes easy in this life. All that is worth having is worth working for. Let the work of my hands produce good fruit. (Matthew 7:17) And help me to remember that every vineyard needs tending. 

Verse 17.

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

Lord, I often feel weak. But I know that in my weakness I am made strong in You. The virtuous woman girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong. Help me to be physically strong and healthy. Let me care for my body in a way that honors You. (1 Corinthians 3:16)

But even more important than that, Lord help me to be spiritually strong. Help me to guard my heart from temptation.  When I wake up in the morning, let me put on the whole armor of God. (Ephesians 6:11)

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Verse 18 & 19.

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

Lord as I pray Proverbs 31, I ask that you bless our finances. Help me to make wise choices when it comes to how I spend money. I don’t want to find fulfillment in things. Instead I want to find my worth in You. It’s so easy to waste money on things that are not needed. But the Truth is only one thing is needed. Let that One Thing not be taken from me. (Luke 10:42)

I am empty and I need You to fill me. Fill me with Your love and Your promises, and Your goodness. Help me have energy throughout the day so that I might not grow weary of well doing. (Galatians 6:9)

Like the Proverbs 31 woman who demonstrates love for others through her faithful work, I want to learn to be content (Philippians 4:11-13), to live quietly, mind my own business, and work with my hands. (1 Thessalonians 4:11)

Verse 20.

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

Lord there are so many needs all around me. There are hurting people in my family, my church, and my community. Help me to be a blessing to those who are hurting. Open my eyes. Soften my heart. 

Give me wisdom to know what you would have me to do. Give me wisdom to know when to say no and when to say yes. Help me to remember that just because something is good doesn’t mean You have called me to do it. But let my heart always be open to do Your will for my life. (Ephesians 5:15-17)

I want to be like the Proverbs 31 woman who opens her hand to the poor. Whether they be poor in spirit (Matthew 5:3), poor in health, or poor in need. And when You have a job for me to do, I say to You, “Here I am, send me.” (Isaiah 6:8)

Verse 21.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

The virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 wasn’t afraid of the snow because she was prepared. She knew she had what she needed. Lord, You know I’m not always prepared and I need your help to be wise in my planning. 

Lord, I ask for your blessing upon my household. That we will all be clothed in Scarlet. Help me to prepare my home, my family, my children for eternal life. (Deuteronomy 6:7) I want so much for my family to be with me in Heaven! 

I know that Your blood covers me. (1 Peter 1:18-19) Let us all put on the robe of righteousness so that we may be saved in that day. (Isaiah 61:10)

Thank you for Your gift of salvation

Verse 22.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

I want my home to be a sweet haven. A place where my family and friends can feel warm and welcomed.  Free to live, learn, and grow. Help me to create an atmosphere of peace and love. (Isaiah 32:18)

Like the Proverbs 31 woman, I want to give my family the very best of what I have to offer. Help me to create beauty in our home. And help me to dress us well, in a way that honors you. 

But let me always remember that while man looks at the outside, You look at our hearts. (1 Samuel 16:7) Dress me in fine linen, that I may be pure and holy before you. (Philippians 2:15)

Verse 23.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

As the bride of Christ, I want others to see You in me. I want You to be known wherever I go. Let Your light so shine through me that You might be glorified. (Matthew 5:16)

I look forward to that day when I see You sitting at the right hand of God (1 Peter 3:22) and among the elders. (Revelation 11:16)

Verse 24 & 25. 

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

As I work at home and in my place of employment, let me be industrious and a hard worker. Let me wear strength and dignity so that others see the character of Christ through me. Let my conduct be such that when people speak against me, they may see my good works and glorify You in the day of visitation. (1 Peter 2:12)

Verse 26.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

My prayer as I pray Proverbs 31 is that on my tongue will be the law of kindness  and that when I open my mouth I will speak with wisdom. Help me to think before I speak. If I need to take a deep breath and wait before responding, please give me patience and clarity of mind. 

Let my conversations be full of grace and seasoned with salt so that I might always respond in a way that honors you. (Colossians 4:6) Help me to build others up with my speech so they may feel encouraged and loved. (Ephesians 4:29)

Verse 27.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

I know that homemaking is a ministry and I want my home to be a haven of peace and rest. Help me to manage my home in a way that glorifies you. (Titus 2:5) Let me have discernment and ask for help when I need it. In order to manage my home well I need to manage my time well. Help me to forsake the bread of idleness and to find joy in my homemaking. 

Lord, I want to do bless my family with a space that feels like home. Home is such a precious gift. Help me to be thankful for our home. 

Verse 28.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Thank you Lord for the children in my life. Help me to always do what is best for the children. Help me to love them well. You said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them. For the kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as these.” (Matthew 19:14)

Help me to always remember that children are watching. Let me influence them for your Kingdom. (Joshua 24:5)

Lord, please bless my marriage. Help me to be the wife you have called me to be. Let my conduct be pure and respectful so that even if he does not believe he may be won over to You. (1 Peter 3:1,2)

Verse 29.

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

I want to be like the Proverbs 31 woman and hear you say, “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” Not by own strength but by yours. (Philippians 4:13) 

I’m so thankful that Your grace is sufficient even for me! Your power is made perfect in my weakness. So I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. (2 Corinthians 12:9)

Verse 30.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Let me always remember that it’s not the adorning of my outward appearance that matters. Instead it’s beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in Your sight. (1 Peter 3:3,4)

Verse 31.

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Lord, let me be always faithful until the end. Let the work of my hands be the testimony of the work You’ve done in me. (Philippians 1:6) Thank you for your mercy and grace today and forever. Amen

In conclusion, I hope you see more vividly how the passage of Proverbs 31 is still relevant today! Being a modern Proverbs 31 woman isn’t about living up to a perfect ideal or standard, it’s about living out God’s purpose for your life each day. 

By praying through Proverbs 31, you can claim God’s Word in your life today. 

Action Steps to Take Today

  1. Read Jeremiah 29:11. 
  2. Ask God to show you what His unique plan is for your life. 
  3. Print out the Praying Proverbs 31 journaling page to write out your own Proverbs 31 Prayer, if desired. 
  4. Remember that Proverbs 31 is a beautiful representation of womanhood – not a to do list to check off. 
  5. Determine today to  find freedom from perfection and live with purpose with God’s help.

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  1. Hi, Melissa! I think this might be my first visit here, and what a lovely and practical use of this chapter! It certainly is aspirational scripture, and if we pray it back to God, suddenly the high standards presented no longer feel like condemnation for all our failure to measure up! Blessings to you.
  2. Melissa, Another awesome, successful post on Proverbs 31!! Loved it so much! You are a great wife and author - I thoroughly enjoy everything you share! I'm excited to write an article on the characteristics of a Proverbs 31 wife someday on my new Christian blog https://sharinglifeandlove.com/. You always lift me up with your words, so keep up the great work. My family is enjoying the homemaking series you are doing as well. Thanks for doing the wrap-up of everything you've done so far. I was able to print them all this weekend! Thanks also for the free prayer journal on here. You are so gifted! Lots of Love in Him, Michele Kelsey

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