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A Simple Guide to Proverbs 31 | Explained for Modern Women

“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30

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Years ago, I broke Proverbs 31 down into what I call the 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman because I believe that these 10 characteristics are how we live out Proverbs 31 today as modern women. When you see the Proverbs 31 woman explained in simple to understand terms it makes a huge difference in how you see her!

A Simple Guide to Proverbs 31 Explained for Modern Women @ AVirtuouswoman.org

When I’m explaining a Biblical principle to you, I like to use a lot of Scripture. There should be no doubt or misunderstanding because God’s Word is very clear! It’s interesting to me that these 10 characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman cover every area of a woman’s life.

The exciting thing about Proverbs 31 is that this passage of Scripture is just as relevant for today’s modern woman as it was thousands of years ago.

God’s Word stands the test of time!

related: Read the King James Version of Proverbs 31 (KJV) here.

It can be so easy for women to read over the passage, think “that’s nice” or “that was interesting” or “I can’t live up to that so why try?” and they move on, barely giving the verses serious thought.

The truth is, it can be hard to understand how Proverbs 31 applies to our modern lives when the passage talks about planting vineyards or the spindle and distaff. That certainly doesn’t sound like something I do every day!

So let’s take a look at the basic principles of the Proverbs 31 Woman and see how we can apply them to our lives today. When you see the Proverbs 31 woman explained in simple to understand terms I think you’ll see how much you can learn from it!

The Proverbs 31 Woman Explained for Modern Women

When the Proverbs 31 Woman is explained well, you can see how profound and relevant she is as an example for women today. As you look at the virtuous woman and study each characteristic, you will find that the passage isn’t as archaic as you might have once believed.

What does Proverbs 31 mean for the 21st Century woman?

The modern day Proverbs 31 Woman may look different on the surface from the virtuous woman described by King Solomon’s mother, but the heart of the passage of Proverbs 31 is encompasses every issue you will face today as 21st century woman.

Ecclesiastes 1:9 tells us, “What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.”

Technology may have changed a whole lot, but people are basically the same as they always were. As human beings made in the image of God, we all have the same kinds of needs, dreams, desires, and longings. We all desire to have meaningful relationships. We all long to feel seen and be known. We all need to have our physical needs met. We laugh. We cry.

We all need a Savior. 

And the Proverbs 31 Woman is no different. You see, a virtuous woman, a woman of noble character, a woman of valor is still just a woman.

“As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one.” Romans 3:10

Without Jesus nothing you or I do is worthy of praise. We are nothing apart from Christ. Without Christ you cannot be good enough to earn salvation. It is by grace you are saved. And it the Proverbs 31 Woman’s faith that gives purpose to her life.

Proverbs 31:30-31

“…a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

10 Characteristics of the Proverbs 31 Woman

These 10 characteristics of the Proverbs 31 Woman show us how we can apply the verses to our lives today.

She is faithful and loves Jesus with all of her heart.

#1 Faith. It is a woman’s faith and relationship with Christ that makes her a virtuous woman. Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman isn’t possible without faith. We are told that she fears the Lord and she will be praised. Her faith is reflected in her character and daily life.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

  • start your day with God
  • study your Bible on a regular basis
  • pray often
  • share the Good News of what God has done in your life with others

Proverbs 31:26

“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” 

Proverbs 31:29-31

“Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

Matthew 22:37

“And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”

John 14:15

“If you love me, you keep my commandments.”

Psalm 119:15, 16

“I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways. I delight in your decrees; I will not neglect your word.” 

She is a faithful bride.

#2 Marriage. A virtuous woman is a faithful bride. But don’t think that you can’t be a Proverbs 31 woman if you are single! You absolutely can! In fact, as a Christian, you are the bride of Christ. You are called to be faithful to Him first and foremost.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

  • remember that you are first and foremost the bride of Christ
  • love your husband well, if you are married
  • pray for your husband
  • encourage your husband

Proverbs 31:11-12

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” 

Proverbs 31:23

“Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.”

Proverbs 31:28

“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her…” 

1 Peter 3:1-6

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” 

Genesis 2:18

“The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

She is a loving mother and her children call her blessed.

#3 Mothering. The Proverbs 31 woman is a good mother. We are told that the Proverbs 31 woman’s children rise up and call her blessed. However, that does not mean you can’t be a virtuous woman if you don’t have children!

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:28

“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her…”

Proverbs 31:26

“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”

Proverbs 22:6

“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”

Deuteronomy 6:1-2

“These are the commands, decrees and laws the Lord your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life.”

Luke 18:16

“But Jesus called the children to him and said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”

She takes care of her physical, mental, and spiritual health.

#4 Health. As Christians we are instructed to care for our bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:19 says, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore glorify God with your body.” That really means that we do our best to abstain from those things that might harm our physical health as well as our spiritual health.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:14-15

“She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.”

Proverbs 31:17

“She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.”

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

Genesis 1:29

“Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.”

She serves others with love and kindness.

#5 Service. A virtuous woman serves others with a cheerful spirit. She is a willing helper and thoughtful toward others. She reaches out to help those around her while maintaining her priorities.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:12

“She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

Proverbs 31:15

“She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.” NLT

Proverbs 31:20

“She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.”

1 Corinthians 13:13

“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

She is a wise steward of the gifts God has given her.

#6 Finances. We are told that the Proverbs 31 woman is careful with her finances and spends money wisely. In the passage of Proverbs 31 we are also told that she helps provide an income with her own business. She was smart and financially savvy.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:14

“She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.”

Proverbs 31:16

“She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.”

Proverbs 31:18

“She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.”

1 Timothy 6:10

“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.”

Ephesians 5:23

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.”

Deuteronomy 14:22

“Be sure to set aside a tenth of all that your fields produce each year.”

She is industrious and works with willing hands.

#7 Industry. A virtuous woman works willingly. She doesn’t eat the bread of idleness – instead she stays busy living out God’s purpose for her life each day. She isn’t lazy, she doesn’t grumble over the task at hand, and she looks well to the ways of her household.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:13

“She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.”

Proverbs 31:16

“She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.”

Proverbs 31:24

“She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.”

Proverbs 31:31

“Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”

Philippians 2:14

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing…”

She is a good manager of her home.

#8 Homemaking. The Proverbs 31 woman is a good homemaker. We are told she looks well to the ways of her household. This does not mean she did every thing herself! She looks well to the ways of her household. She has help. She is not a slave to her family or home. She is a good manager of her home. She organizes her household in a way that helps things run smoothly so that everything runs smoothly.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:15

“She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.” NLT

Proverbs 31:20-22

“She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.”

Proverbs 31:27

“She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness.”

Titus 2:4-5

“In this way they can train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”

1 Peter 4:9

“Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.”

Hebrews 13:2

“Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.”

She spends her time on that which is good.

#9 Time. We are told that the virtuous woman spends her time doing what needs to be done. She does not waste time on tasks or activities that would detract from the well being of her family or from her faith. She is industrious and hard working.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:19

“In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.”

Proverbs 31: 27

“She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

Proverbs 16:9

“A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.”

Philippians 4:8

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

She is creative and embraces beauty and godliness.

#10 Beauty. The Proverbs 31 woman is well dressed and she provides a pleasant and inviting home for her family and friends. The passage tells us that beauty is vain, but it also tells us that she dresses respectably and takes care with her appearance.

How to apply this characteristic to your life: 

Proverbs 31:10

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price if far above rubies.”

Proverbs 31:21-22

“She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet. She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.”

Proverbs 31:24-25

She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”

Isaiah 61:10

I delight greatly in the Lordmy soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of his righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.”

1 Timothy 2:9

“I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes…”

Action Steps to Take Today:

  1. Pray and ask God to give you wisdom and show you His purpose for your life.
  2. Make a commitment to start each day with God time – even if it’s just a short prayer.
  3. Remember that you are justified by faith through grace and becoming a woman after God’s own heart is a journey you will always be traveling.
  4. Thank God for giving you a blueprint for living and for painting such a beautiful picture of womanhood.
  5. Tell others what God has done in your life!

Free Printable Proverbs 31 Woman pdf

You can use this printable two page pdf as a Bible study guide to learn more about the virtuous woman and how you become a Proverbs 31 Woman today.

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21 Comments

  1. Hello Melissa, I purchased 10 Virtues of the Proverb 31 Woman. Is this the same study that includes She is Clothed with strength & dignity download? Yvonne
  2. I would love to use your materials at an upcoming women’s retreat. How may I give you credit for your ideas? Thank you!
      1. Hi Melissa.... I really love your blog... How can use proverbs 31 to help other women in my community or church?? Thank you
      2. Thank you! You can certainly share my blog with the ladies in your church or share the 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman Inforgraphic: https://avirtuouswoman.org/downloads/proverbs-31-infographic/
  3. Good evening Melisa Ringstaff, thank you so much for allowing God to use you. I have always had heart for this women Proverbs 31 and had time to lead a group of ladies in the past and it was so difficult to simplify this scriptures, last night as I was browsing on the site I came across your blog and I thought this is a prayer answered. I’m starting a ministry with that God has laid in my heart called She-Is-Far-More-Than-Rubies,So your blog will be informative. Brandy. RSA
  4. Melissa you are such a Blessing, thank you so much for equipping us with all this. I have been working on coming up with a show about a virtuous woman, when ready I will surely contact you for further details. I like the woman am becoming daily thank God for people like you who help.
  5. This is quite a handful. My eyes were opened to alot of insight on the characteristics of The proverb 31 woman.Thanks for putting this together. I'm stuck with this blog.God bless you
  6. Wow! Mellisa this devotion has greatly blessed me! I am 28 years old and a preachers daughter and I have just started helping my dad on his YouTube channel by speaking With him. I would LOVE to use this sermon and scriptures to speak to the younger generation if you wouldn’t mind that. I have been studying this for the last 2.5 hours there is soo much and so much scripture to back it all up and I love that!
  7. Hi Melissa......U r truly a blessing and an inspiration for all women......I have been depressed and sad so many times about my life.....At times I have been confused also as to wats all these happening in my life......Being a 2nd wife to my husband was never easy for me.....Though his 1st wife has been quite understanding and supportive, facing the society was never easy.....But u taught me that perfection is not important in our lives but purpose is....My life has changed a lot after getting connected to the virtuous women......Blessed to have a teacher like u which can guide all of us to live better lives in our Lord Jesus.......Thank u so much.....May the Lord bless u to transform many more lives through the years.......I Pray for blessing upon ur family n ur ministry .........God bless u
  8. Thanks for your notes on the virtuous woman. I need guidance given the fact that i really tried my best as a wife but my husband was less appreciative and still left.
  9. How do I get the entire Proverbs 31 study guide in PDF format so I can print it for a friend who wants to apply God’s word to her life? I’m not seeing where I can buy the PDF to be emailed to me. My friend lacks the ability to view or print the pdf she purchased of the virtuous woman study she received. Thanks.

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