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We are told in Proverbs 31 that the virtuous woman’s children “arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” Proverbs 31:28 NIV.
In this day and age of the disconnected family, it’s more important than ever that as mothers we work diligently to draw our families together.
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The Proverbs 31 Wife and Mother
The Bible tells us that the Proverbs 31 Woman is a trustworthy spouse and that her children call her blessed. She works hard for her family and they recognize and appreciate her efforts.
If you are new here, here are a few ideas to get you started…
- Getting Started with Family Worship
- Making the Sabbath a Delight
- Six Reasons I Love Camping with Kids
- Emotional Abuse is Not Okay
- How to Wake Up Without Waking the Kids
- Encourage Your Husband
- How to Inspire Creativity in Your Children
Making Family a Priority
These days, it’s very easy to be so caught up in technology that you miss the good stuff. We’re connected to “friends” on social media, but inside our homes everyone is disconnected from each other.
I try hard to remember that my online life can’t hold a candle to my real everyday messy life. It’s important to remember that when you come to the end of your life, you aren’t going to wish you had held your smart phone more. You’re going to wish you’d held your husband’s hand more or child’s sweet weight against your breast.
As I went through the trials and gifts of the past week, it was always in the back of my mind that I was letting my readers down.
Here’s the stark truth. It is not possible to do it all.
You see, one of my greatest passions since I was about ten years old is writing. I love to write. My family understands full well how much I love to write. I spend hours every week writing. It’s like, I can’t not write. If I’m not writing, I’m most likely thinking about writing.
I believe that God gave me the gift of writing and the desire to write. But, is it really the most important thing in my life? Not by a long shot. It is important, just not the most important.
Let me repeat. It is NOT possible to do it all.
If you try, you will eventually realize that the cost of trying to do it all is high. Something always suffers. What then do we do? We set our priorities and we live them. The rest can be “let go” or just not done as often.
I’m a real mom with a real life, a real {big} family who isn’t always on top of her game. Sometimes the chaos and drama in our extended family is more than I want to bear.
Thankfully, my own children are pretty well behaved, sweet, and thoughtful most of the time! But that doesn’t mean the daily to-dos are easy or less work. In fact, raising well behaved children, as I’ve mentioned in the past takes a lot of hard work.
Today’s Goal: Determine whether you’ve been living distracted for far too long. Make a decision – a commitment to yourself, your family and to God about how you will spend your time living with purpose. Make a plan to connect on a deeper level to those you love.
The Proverbs 31 Wife & Helpmeet
“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18
In today’s society, the word HELPMEET is often met with derision and contempt. Even within Christian circles, the idea that woman was created for man can bring about heated discussions and controversy. I think the problem very well lies within the interpretation of the word.
Helpmeet very simply means to be a helper.
When two people come together in marriage, they share goals and dreams for their new life. They decide what kind of life they want to live, where they want to live, how many children they want to have, when to purchase their first home, and the list goes on. They have a life in common. They are creating memories and experiences together.
A wife should compliment her husband in a way that helps him achieve their common goals so that he may prosper thereby prospering their family as well. A wife should make life easier for her husband. In other words, the husband and wife work together to create their life together, each bearing their own roles to play. They are partners in life and love. They are like one unit, each working toward the same goal, but with separate jobs.
Both the husband and wife are important, without one there would be no marriage. Neither the wife nor the husband is less important, but they are different. Just like the husband should be considerate of the emotional, physical, and spiritual needs of his wife, so should the wife be considerate of the needs of her husband.
And so they work together as a team. What would happen if one member of a baseball team (each with their own role to play) decided he no longer wanted to be the catcher because he preferred being the pitcher? They game would fall apart. Marriage is the same way.
As wives, God has given us an amazing responsibility to love our husbands as only a wife can do. By considering ways we can be a helpmeet to our husbands, we will strengthen our marriage relationship.
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The Proverbs 31 Mom
My kids know I like them. Yes, most kids know their parents love them. But do they know their parents think they are really cool people?
I enjoy my children. They are the neatest people ever! And to think that God gifted me with such amazing little {well, not so little anymore} people is nothing short of a miracle.
I want to live my best life. I want my kids to remember me engaged with them on a daily basis. I want them to leave home to start their own lives wanting to make a home of their own based on cherished memories of their childhood. I don’t want them to look back on their childhood with anything but fondness.
Of course, no life is perfect, no family is perfect, and moms every where will agree – we’re not perfect. But perfection is not the point. Living fully, with purpose, is.
My experience has been that I NEVER regret taking the time to look in my child’s eyes, to laugh at a joke, to engage in meaningful conversations with my family, or spend the day just hanging out whether it be at the house, the ice rink, the dentist’s office, camping for the weekend, or on a hike.
So, my question for you today is this: Are you embracing what really matters or are your hands busy with the unimportant much of the time? Are you living distracted?
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Conversation Starters for Families
Enjoy these printable conversation starters with your family and have fun connecting!
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