She looks well to the ways of her household.
Homemaking is a noble act of service. When women seek to create an inviting space for their friends and family they are ultimately serving the Risen Savior. The Proverbs 31 woman is a woman who understands that homemaking is a ministry worthy of her time.
The Proverbs 31 Homemaker
Homemaking is an honor that we often take for granted – or even begrudge. Memories of home should be precious. What memories did you take with you when you left home? What memories will your children take with them?
One of the biggest questions I often ask myself is, “What will my children remember about home, about me? What do I want them to remember?”
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Learning to Enjoy Homemaking
It’s easy to allow ourselves to feel overwhelmed or discouraged with the work of housekeeping. But it is possible to enjoy homemaking!
I’ve been a homemaker for nearly 30 years. That’s a long time! And over those years I’ve had moments where I was discouraged or even frustrated by the amount of work I had before me. And in all honestly, as a young homemaker I wasn’t particularly fond of the work required. But I learned to appreciate my role.
My mom was a wonderful homemaker. Even though she worked outside the home most of my childhood, she woke up early and somehow she managed to keep the house tidy. She never went to bed with a messy kitchen and we always had clean laundry folded in our drawers. She cooked good meals and really made us feel loved through her homemaking.
related: The Art of Homemaking
As a young woman, I wasn’t particularly good at homemaking. Some of it boiled down to the fact that I just didn’t want to keep house. So… I really only did what I absolutely had to. But then, as I had more children and learned better homemaking skills, I found myself enjoying the simple acts of homemaking.
Learning to enjoy homemaking really was a slow process for me. If you’ve read my testimony you know that I was a first time mom at the young age of 15. And over the following 10 years I slowly learned to enjoy homemaking such that I now look forward to days when I can focus on cleaning and prepping meals for the week and cooking nice dinners.
I like having a clean home.
In fact, I really love having a home that makes my family feel warm, secure, and loved. Homemaking isn’t about perfection, it’s about creating a space that feels like home!
If you were to walk into my house unannounced, you likely wouldn’t find everything neatly put away. We do live here after all! But you would find a mostly tidy space that brings me joy.
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At A Virtuous Woman, you’ll find every aspect of home and family life taught through the lens of faith. Being a modern day Proverbs 31 Woman isn’t about living up to a perfect ideal, it’s about a perfect savior living through you.
How to Enjoy Homemaking
It’s always easier to enjoy something if you are good at it. Gone are the days when young women are taught basic homemaking skills in school. And often, young women are not really taught how to properly maintain a home by their mothers.
Here are a few ideas to help you enjoy homemaking more:
Learn Basic Homemaking Skills | Homemaking 101
The Bible tells us the the Proverbs 31 Woman “looked well to the ways of her household.” Proverbs 31:27. That doesn’t mean she did everything herself!
The Proverbs 31 Woman is a woman who manages her home well so that the life of the family runs smoothly.
Set Up Simple Routines
Routines give rhythm to your day and help you organize your time so that you accomplish your goals.
This is such a blessing that came at exactly the moment I needed it most in my life, not just to sort out my house, but to purge my heart of hurt. – Amanda
Become More Self Disciplined
Many women today struggle with self discipline. But I’m here to help you learn to be more self disciplined at home! I can promise you, being self disciplined is one of the best skills you will ever learn.
People who are self disciplined are happier and more successful. According to a study published in the Journal of Personality, self discipline or self control ” positively contributes to happiness through avoiding and dealing with motivational conflict.”
Proverbs 31:13 says, “She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands.” The Proverbs 31 Woman is a woman who has self discipline.
The good news is, God is faithful to help you with every aspect of life – including self discipline. The Bible says:
“For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7
Courses for the Proverbs 31 Homemaker | Homemaking Classes
Over the years I’ve written a number of series and courses for the Christian homemaker. Learning to enjoy homemaking is easier when you have a step by step plan. In these series below you’ll find structured learning for the homemaker.
Read Edifying Books and Blogs
It’s a lot easier to feel good about your role as a homemaker when you fill your soul with encouraging words. Some of my favorite inspiring reads are:
House & Garden Tour
Melissa’s Home and Garden & Life in the Mountains
We’ve lived in our home in Harlan, Kentucky for over 15 years now. This is where my youngest daughter, Laura, was born – right at home! Lots of wonderful, precious memories here.
Meal Planning & Setting the Table
Mealtime is such an important part of the life of a family. As a Proverbs 31 Homemaker, you will take time each week to provide meals that nourish your family’s body and soul. Meal planning and preparation doesn’t have to take a long time, but it is important that you give thought and care to what you will eat each week!
Train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Titus 2:4, 5