When you think of the word homemaker, who do you think of? Who are homemakers in your life? Your mom? Your grandmother? June Cleaver from the television show, Leave It to Beaver? You may be wondering what it means to be a homemaker. Maybe you want to know who is a homemaker and if you are or can be a homemaker. So let’s talk about it.
A homemaker is any woman who seeks to make her home an inviting, warm, and welcoming for her family and guests.
I was not always the best homemaker. There were days when I hated the idea of cleaning the kitchen or doing another load of laundry. As a really young mom I struggled with getting just the basics done each day. I often felt like a homemaking failure. I was overwhelmed by homemaking.
Much of that had to do with immaturity. Some of it had to do with laziness and selfishness. Some of it stemmed from depression and feelings of shame. I had a lot of growing up to do.
But as the years past and more children came, I began to understand what it really meant to be a homemaker. Homemaking isn’t about having a perfect house. It’s about serving a perfect God through the ordinary daily tasks of homemaking.
Who is a homemaker?
☑ You could be a mom of littles working tirelessly each day to care for your little ones and housekeeping chores.
☑ You could be a single woman who works outside the home who enjoys the art of homemaking, decorating, and cooking.
☑ You could be a mom of teens who sees to it that those hungry bellies are always full and the homemaking routines are run like a tight ship.
☑ You could be mom who works outside the home full time – or part time – but comes home and cares for your home and family in countless ways only you can do.
☑ You could be an empty nester who finds a love for gardening, cooking, and playing with grand babies.
☑ You could be a single mom who laughs even when it’s hard and who makes sure the most important things get done while still finding time to play with your kids.
Whatever your life looks like right now? You can be a homemaker.
A Homemaker’s Value
As a woman of faith, you are called to be a homemaker. Homemakers are incredibly valuable. In this day and age what we need more of isn’t sterile housekeeping. We need more warm and inviting homemaking.
We’re all spending more time at home these days. Home should be a respite from the stress of this world. Home is to be a soft place for our weary hearts to land.
“My people will abide in a peaceful habitation, in secure dwellings, and in quiet resting places.” Isaiah 32:18
It’s God’s desire that His people live in peaceful homes. That’s not to say your home will always be happy, peaceful, or orderly. We live in a world where nothing is perfect. There will be days when your home sees sorrow, anger, frustration, and chaos. You will have good days and bad days. We all do.
“I believe that a godly home is a foretaste of heaven. Our homes, imperfect as they are, must be a haven from the chaos outside. They should be a reflection of our eternal home, where troubled souls find peace, weary hearts find rest, hungry bodies find refreshment, lonely pilgrims find communion, and wounded spirits find compassion.” – Jani Ortlund
But, the value of a homemaker and the work she does is immeasurable. Creating a home is much different than simply clean a house.
- It’s the time she takes to plan meals for her family.
- It’s the care she puts into setting the table for a special meal.
- It’s the nurturing of relationships inside the home.
- It’s the tenderness she shows a child who skinned his knee.
- It’s the concern she shows her husband when he’s had a long day.
- It’s the warm laundry, folded and neatly put away.
- It’s the aroma of spices wafting from the kitchen.
- It’s the laughter heard and the smiles shared.
A few weeks ago my daughter Emily (she just turned 24) sent me a text with a link to a video skit. And in the video, this teen was in bed when her mom opened the door yelling at her that it was time to wake up.
She was grateful I didn’t wake her up that way.
Imagine starting your day with someone yelling and fussing at you? Now imagine waking up to a cheerful good morning song and lots of smiles.
I was certainly not a perfect mom, but I always, always woke up the kids with a song and a smile.
Mamas, you have so much power to create a rich and loving atmosphere in your home!
The value of a homemaker is often simply in the atmosphere she creates in her home. Does she offer warmth? Does she offer love?
Even if her home isn’t neat or tidy all the time, a homemaker’s value is in the loving care she provides for her family. It’s in the kind hospitality she offers guests.
There is certainly immense value in the work a homemaker does. A homemaker’s job is never done. The tasks she performs on a daily basis are as vast and varied as any job on earth.
“No occupation in this world is more trying to soul and body than the care of young children. What patience and wisdom, skill and unlimited love it calls for. God gave the work to mothers and furnished them for it, and they cannot shirk it and be guiltless.” ― Isabella Alden and Mrs. C. M. Livingston
The work you do at home is incredibly valuable.
As a homemaker, you may feel as though no one appreciates the hard work and effort that goes into each and every day. Especially if you have young children. But even homemakers who no longer have young children can feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the amount of work that goes into caring for a home.
I want you to know that even if your husband forgets to thank you for the work you do or if your children seem ungrateful in this moment, you ((and the work you do) are valuable. God sees the unseen work of your hands. Your work never goes completely unnoticed.
“Even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Matthew 20:28 ESV
When you serve your family, you are serving the King of the universe. And God sees that.
“She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.” Genesis 16:13
I hope this encourages you to begin looking at your role as a homemaker in a new, perhaps better light. If you’ve ever wondered who is a homemaker or what it means to be a homemaker, remember that God has called you to it and because of that He will help you be the best homemaker you can be. He is faithful!
Action Steps to Take Today
- Pray and ask God to help you see your value as a homemaker.
- If you’ve struggled with appreciating your role as a homemaker, think about how homemaking makes your loved ones feel.
- Seek to focus on creating a warm and inviting atmosphere in your home.
- Download and print out my worksheet, My Role as a Homemaker, if desired.
- Use the worksheet to put your thoughts and prayers for your home down on paper.
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