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The Heart of Her Husband: Day 3

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:5

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“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her.” Proverbs 31:11

With Valentine’s Day approaching in just a few days… I thought it would be fun to focus on different aspects of the marriage relationship or rather, how you and I can be better wives! Proverbs 31 tells us that the heart of the virtuous woman’s husband could safely trust in her. Does your husband trust you or does his hear lie in fear of what is coming?

You can read the rest of this series here.

Are you a home maker?

The Bible tells us that a wise woman builds her home, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands. (Proverbs 14:1) Regardless of whether you work outside the home or are a full-time housewife, God has called you to be the homemaker. Homemaking has such value! Do not undermine the sacredness of what you do – not only for your children, but for your husband as well!

I like how Ellen White says, “Let woman realize the sacredness of her work and, in the strength and fear of God, take up her life mission.”

And C.S. Lewis once said:

““I think I can understand that feeling about a housewife’s work being like that of Sisyphus (who was the stone rolling gentleman). But it is surely, in reality, the most important work in the world. What do ships, railways, mines, cars, government etc exist for except that people may be fed, warmed, and safe in their own homes? As Dr Johnson said, ‘To be happy at home is the end of all human endeavour’. (1st to be happy, to prepare for being happy in our own real Home hereafter: 2nd, in the meantime, to be happy in our houses.) We wage war in order to have peace, we work in order to have leisure, we produce food in order to eat it. So your job is the one for which all others exist.” – C.S. Lewis

related: Homemaking Quotes | The Best Homemaker Quotes

Home should be the place your husband longs to return after a hard days work. The home should be inviting, loving, warm, free of tension and grief. The husband should be greeted not with a chaotic scence unfolding before as he steps inside the threshold, but rather pleasantness. He should be able to walk in the door and find a neat and orderly home; a clean kitchen with something delicious cooking at supper time; children who are polite and happy to see him; and a wife who smiles and greets him with words of cheer. It may sound idealic and it is. However, it is not impossible!

If you are struggling with homemaking, pray about it! Then, make a plan.

Sit down with a pen and paper and make a plan of action to carry you through each day. You should have a routine that you perform on a daily basis. You should have a routine for the morning, afternoon, and evening. Here is an example of a morning routine for a stay at home mom:

related: Housekeeping Tips for the Working Mom

  • Wake up early ( 5 or 6 am)
  • Prayer and devotion
  • Shower
  • Cook breakfast, wake up children, eat
  • Tidy up kitchen, sweep floor
  • Start a load of clothes in washing machine
  • Make beds, wipe down bathroom sinks

If your house is in a state of total chaos, make a commitment to begin clearing out the clutter one room at a time. Go to bed every evening with your house clean so that you wake up to a clean house. Then, take a few minutes throughout the day to tidy up. Make it a habit and you’ll find a rhythm that works for you.

Your husband deserves fresh linens on his bed, socks in his drawer, good food on the table, and children who are well mannered. God has commisioned you to do it. Don’t forget my favorite verse, “I can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens me.” (Phil. 4:13)

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My name is Melissa Ringstaff and I've been blogging here at A Virtuous Woman since 2001. I'm a pastor's wife and homeschooling mom living in the beautiful Appalachian Mountains of Southeastern KY. I believe in finding freedom from perfection and living life with purpose and I want to help you do exactly that.

I'm so glad you've stopped by to visit with me. I hope we can be friends!

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  1. Melissa

    February 3, 2010 at 7:51 am

    Well, this is one of those days where God decided that I needed to be corrected several times about several different things. So, between my bible study this morning and the homemaker topic...I have been corrected. So, I will be making a few changes to my routine. And coming from someone who never in the world thought that they could get up at 5:30AM!! God is capable of changing your habits and giving you the strength to do the things you never could have on your own.
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  2. Mrs. JP

    February 3, 2010 at 8:28 am

    Thank you for doing this series. I'm really enjoying it. I like the encouraging words to pray for our husbands.
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  3. Kristen

    February 3, 2010 at 12:02 pm

    I've been trying my best to do this! Some days are so much harder than others. I am trying though. Thanks!
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  4. Cat

    February 3, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    Melissa, Thank you so much for this series. We sometimes take those we love for granted. Housework has never been my stong point and I recently made a commitment to keeping the main rooms clean, neat and organized on a daily basis. It is much easier to keep it clean than to spend a day trying to make some headway in the mess. I am still working on organizing our bedroom, master bath and closet but I know if I stick with it and follow God's lead I will get it done!
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  5. Cora

    February 3, 2010 at 7:18 pm

    Hello; Melissa Thank you for creating this place to share my love for my family. Today has been a very cold day in our neighborhood. I am back to trying to get into bed by 7:00 or 8:00. I need at least 8 hours of sleep. if I am going to be able to get up before my wonderful family, to make breakfast and make sure everything is in place to move then forward and out the door to work and school. I attended a afternoon dinner party this week. It was wonderful. I think as a guest and it being friends, I pitched in and helped clean up. I washed many beautiful trays that appeared to be glass or crystal. I noticed food plates were all crystal. I found out this friend use to sell soemthing called princess line of goods. I have not done any research going to check it out. I had never had fried sauted planten. It was very good. I think soon it will be my house and my turn, I am getting very nervous and excited. Trying hard also to be the perfect wife and the slow cooker is wonderful.
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  6. Kim

    February 4, 2010 at 10:29 am

    Such an encouraging series, Melissa!
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  7. Cynthia

    February 4, 2010 at 5:29 pm

    I think this series is nice and very encouraging. However, I am a working wife who works 10 hours a day and usually I work until midnight or later. my husband works a 8-5 job and is home in the evenings. We constantly disagree about the fact that he expects the house to be emaculate and dinner cooked when he gets home. however I have explained to him that yes it is my job to make sure that these things are done, but he must realize that I am not home in the evenings to cook dinner and he is..so my solution would be for him to prep dinner. I told him that if wants these things done in a timely manner that he needs to make it possible for me to stay home and be the homemaker. Which I have no problem doing. I pay all of my own bills and buys all of the groceries so I must work outside of the home. I am bringing home the bacon, least he could do is fry it up in a pan..what do you think?
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  8. Melissa Ringstaff

    February 6, 2010 at 3:16 pm

    Cynthia, I can sympathize with your issue. I applaud your efforts! Obviously if you are working outside of the home during the it would be nice if he could pitch in and help with the household chores and cooking. If he is disagreeable, perhaps you could start using the crockpot on the days you work? One of my favorite sites for crockpot recipes is: http://crockpot365.blogspot.com/ As far as homemaking - keeping the house clean - make up a strict schedule for your basic chores, a rotating schedule for cleaning and make sure to do a load of laundry every day. Also, try to do those chores I suggested for the morning routine either each morning when you wake up or before you go to bed. Stick to a schedule and at least you'll be somewhat on top of things. In life there aren't always easy answers, but I believe that if you do your best to honor your husband, God will bless you more than you can every imagine. God knows your best effort.
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  9. Cora

    February 15, 2010 at 3:04 pm

    Cynthia I love that name my sister laws name and we call her Cindy. I use to set up crocks pots and have all the meals ready when i worked longer hours and when I left husband pulled in so child was not alone ever. Meals were done. When I arrived at work and people shared conversation s they do. One lady told me what you already made dinner and how did i do that? So I shared with her crock pots. I did get away from it from just trying to go gormet lately. So, now I am trying to learn to cook slow cooker and gormet at the same time. we still had a problem of course with jsut eating and a mess when I came home where my family always left the mess for me and no one wanted to go to bed with out mommas story. So still came home to cleaning late and putting child to bed with bath and rituals of folding back covers reading scripture. No one does it like mother. Even when they set out to they find it is so much more than they imagined. It takes a mother too make a home a home.
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  10. Samanta

    March 23, 2015 at 8:03 am

    Hello, I love these tips. I am a wife who works long hours away from home. This we have talked and even my husband encouraged me to do, and he believes that not only is good to have another income at home, but I should develop my professional potential. I spend many hours away from home and also domestic work is not my thing. But God has been revealing to me the importance of being a good wife, mother and Housewife. But unfortunately my lack of practice and enthusiasm make my house a caos, so desperately seeking motivations, tips and suggestions to help me get better each day according to the perfect will of God. Thanks Melissa for all your contributions to my cause.
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    • Melissa Ringstaff

      March 23, 2015 at 11:51 am

      Hi Samantha! I'm so glad you're here and I hope you and your family are blessed! Let me know if you have any questions! God is faithful to provide exactly what we need. God bless you!
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🏠 Being a homemaker is such an important role. 🏠 Being a homemaker is such an important role. It’s a ministry to your family and all who enter your home.  But I want you to know: You don’t have to be perfect. ❤️  There’s a fine line between teaching your children to be neat and insisting on perfection. No one can meet that kind of standard and it can be detrimental to the emotional health of your family.  What we want for our homes is to provide a space that is neat and clean enough that your family and friends feel comfortable and well loved.  There is freedom in accepting the fact that you’re not perfect. Not to make excuses for slovenliness - but to give yourself grace.  It’s when we recognize our weakness that we find ourselves reaching out to Jesus to receive the power that comes only from him. As homemakers, when we can find grace for the moment when we accept His Gift.  “But now for a brief moment grace has been shown from the LORD our God, to leave us an escaped remnant and to give us a peg in His holy place, that our God may enlighten our eyes and grant us a little reviving in our bondage. Ezra 9:8  Let His Grace wash over you, cleanse your weary heart. Homemaking isn’t about creating a perfect space. It’s about creating a home where loved ones feel cared for and nurtured. 
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