Welcome to day three of the Proverbs 31 Prayer Challenge! Today we’re looking at and praying Proverbs 31:11. The Proverbs 31 woman’s husband can trust her. So today we’re looking at ways you can build trust in marriage.
Dear Heavenly Father,
The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack of gain or no need of spoil. Lord let me be a trustworthy wife to my husband and a faithful bride to You. (Revelation 19:7-9)
Help me to be a woman that can be trusted. I want my husband to be able to depend on me. I don’t want to add to his worry and stress. As I become the woman you would have me to be, help me to be a trustworthy helpmeet to my husband.
Trust in Marriage
In a healthy marriage, the husband and wife act as a team. They have common goals and work together to reach those goals. Trust in marriage is so important!
Building a life together and work toward goals requires two things:
In the book, The Five Disunctions of a Team, author Patrick Lancioni shares 5 layers which represent the growth of a team and how they function. This book isn’t a marriage book, but I think the idea can be used as a marriage principle when we think of you and your husband as a team.
When trust is lacking in a relationship it leads to all sorts of problems.
- lack of trust which leads to…
- a fear or conflict which leads to…
- lack of commitment which leads to…
- avoidance of responsibilities which leads to…
- failure to focus on team results (goals)
It’s so important to the overall health of your marriage that you be someone your husband can trust. I know you want to build trust in your marriage!
trust is defined as: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
She is trustworthy.
As a Christian wife, you want to be the kind of woman your husband trusts without question. If you are a trustworthy wife, your husband has faith that you will hold to your commitments.
Your commitment to God.
As a trustworthy wife, your husband knows that you put God first. He sees your relationship with Christ demonstrated daily through your interactions with him.
Your commitment to your marriage.
As a trustworthy wife, you uphold your wedding vows. You remain faithful to your husband emotionally and physically. Your husband knows he can trust you not to flirt with other men or have an affair.
You commitment to your children.
As a trustworthy wife, you take seriously your responsibility to care for and love your children. Your husband doesn’t have to worry about the health and well being of your children when he’s not home. He knows that you provide for their physical and emotional needs. They are loved, fed, and clean.
Your commitment to your husband’s needs.
As a trustworthy wife, you do your best to see to it that your husband is taken care of. I don’t mean you are a slave to him, but instead, you serve him each day with thoughtful kindness. You think of his needs, his likes, his desires as you go about your day. You’re dependable when he asks you to help him. You follow through on your commitments to him.
Your commitment to your finances.
As a trustworthy wife, you seek to be a good steward of your family’s finances. He can trust you to make wise choices and not be wasteful. You don’t hide your spending from him and you work together to reach any financial goals you’ve set together – whether you are trying to pay off debt, save for a new house, or put money aside for a family vacation.
Your commitment to your home.
As a trustworthy wife, you manage your home well. Just like the Proverbs 31 woman, you see to it that your household tasks get done – whether that means delegating, hiring out help, or creating a cleaning routine. You don’t have to do everything yourself, but you recognize that homemaking is ministry and you take care to create a space that is warm and comforting.
Your commitment to love.
As a trustworthy wife, your husband doesn’t need to worry that when he comes home he’ll be greeted with a critical spirit and harsh words. Instead, he finds his wife practices the law of kindness like the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31. It’s important to speak kind words and have a pleasant tone of voice.
Your commitment to romance.
As a trustworthy wife, your husband appreciates your commitment to physical intimacy. Being physically intimate is such an important part of the marriage relationship and helps to build trust and emotional connection. If you want to spice up your sex life, I highly recommend Sheila Wray Gregoire’s website, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum and her course, Boost Your Libido.
Action Steps to Take Today
- Pray and ask God to show what areas of your marriage you have not been trustworthy in.
- Write down some ways you feel you could improve in this area of marriage.
- Remember that open and honest communication is key to building trust in marriage.
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- Use the worksheet each week during your weekly check-in for open, clear communication.
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